My thoughts on Love Relationships in this blog..Call it a Love Radio Blog if you want..: September 2005

Friday, September 30, 2005

Some pple analyse and analyse til they paralyse.. Take Action Today.. Walk the Talk!!!

Has it happened to you b4?? Seen a ger whom you had really strong feelings for juz go past you?? This chemistry or undeniable uncontrollable attraction for this person?? Juz their sheer presence alone is enough to make you go weak in the knees at the mere sight of them?? Well.. I guess you are not alone.. Cos most pple in general have faced this problem.. Especially in interacting with new pple... Frightened of strangers, this tingling phobia.. Why you may ask?? Cos since young we have been indoctrinated by our dear parents who try to shelter us from the storms outside and forbid us to speak to strangers.. Many pple are still livin in this comfort zone of theirs, unwilling to make a difference in their lives.. Face it guys, you always feel dat you've grown up already, truth is you have, but are you really behavin and tinkin like you should??

Take Action once again, and decide to make a difference in your own life.

Friday, September 23, 2005

Time is the answer to almost everything...

Are you and your other half a match made in heaven? Time will tell..As in all relationships, the initial phase is usually filled wif passion before slowly slidin into a comfort zone of security as a couple come round to understand one another beta, building the trust and confidence in one another..

There is always the looming question wif regards to uni gers abandonin their army boyfren for the supposedly promised land, the promised land of beta promising guys..I have pretty much came to a conclusion for this "Phenomenon"..

First of all, the guy bein in army alreadi means he can only see her less..Not all guys are blessed wif the fortune of bein able to leave camp durin wkdays..Hence, who does the gf seek company in?? Uni guys and gers... but gers in general enjoy bein taken care of, when these uni guys start treatin them real well, its lulls them into a false image of falling for the guy and dismissin their army bf who appear to b unable to provide for them.. Dun get me wrong now, i'm not saying dat those uni guys r not gd, in fact they cld potentially b beta then the ger's existin bf.. But wat i'm tryin to say is dat the circumstances hv made it easier for them to win over the ger..

Second, over time, temptations come n go.. The onus of stayin faithful to yr partner becos of the commitment u hv made wif one another lies entirely on the individual..For all existing pple attached out there, listen up!!! When a new ger or guy in the block comes along, it usually gives rise to a feelin of passion, a feelin of love, similar to wat the ger felt when she fell for her bf initially too.. However, at dis pt, it is entirely up to the ger to decide if her current bf is gd enough or the potential candidate.. Cos the new guy might not treat her as well aft he reaches the same time period as the ger has been wif her bf. Eg. Ger wif 2yr bf..Camaraderie initially=90, aft 2 yrs=80. New guy wif ger intially=95, aft 2 yrs=60. Which one looks like the beta deal now?? The ger might choose the new guy only to regret later.. However all these things are purely speculative, but I'm juz explorin dis possiblity dats all.

Third... Which I tink contributes to the most breakups... Guys, as I've mentioned all along.. Confidence and posture is extremely attractive to gers!! Most guys suffer from a drop in self confidence and a rise in insecurity once they enlist.. Why?? Guys in army=virtually zero gers. Gers in uni=virtually all guys. Who's in a beta position in the relationship now?? haha.. The guys grows insecure, gets more possessive, loses his cool more often over guys who threaten to jeopardize his place in the ger's heart.. Girl grow frustrated at his neediness, clingyness, bad temper, lack of time to accompany her.. so on so forth.. Instead of havin to face all the complains and negative vibes in the army, she often hears from uni guys dat army is nothin,and are often spreadin all the postive images and brimming wif confidence.. If i'm a ger who wld i choose?? The choice is obvious. Advice to all army guys, u gotta buck up in the confidence area, cos gers r essentially more faithful than guys.. We have the upperhand alreadi..

Juz takin a minute to clarify the army issue.. Veri often when we look back at tough periods, we'll tink it wasnt dat bad.. But yet at dat time, things arent dat way.. As an officer of the SAF, Sword of Merit Holder=Top 10% of Cadet Graduate, i tink I'm in one of the best positions to cast judgement on dat.. During my cadet days, I can bet u trainin was tough.. Lack of sleep, heavy physical and mental stress, and hardly anytime spend out of camp.. Over a gruelling ten months. Now dat I look back at it, it seems ok.. But during the period, it was crazily tough i'm tellin u.. N i believe once i finish my service and enter uni, I'll probably end up like those uni donkeys who start claimin officer trainin wasnt dat tough.. N perhaps to a ger who's bf is in Officer Cadet School, who's bf keep complainin bout how tough it is, while I'm the one who seems non-chalent bout it.. This is wat's probably happenin now.. Get the illustration and picture I'm tryin to paint!!???

Thursday, September 22, 2005

Trial and error or trial and succeed?

Well sometimes,some things happen for a reason..Breakups are meant to give you cause for heartaches and grief..Of which I believe ultimately leads to delayed gratification..Its a test of one's character,to grow from it,learn from it and ultimately to step out of it,to be daring enough to demand that you deserve someone beta and to find someone beta!If your past relationship had brought you mostly heartaches, sadness and roller coaster emotions, it might have killed yr willingness and guts to engage into another relationship when Mr. Potentially Right comes along..

Personally, I feel dat a relationship is a trial and error event which we gotta go thru..Few pple are blessed with the fairy tale of finding their Mr/Mrs Right on the first try..Because like I said, it take practice to be sharper at finding yr other half and knowing exactly wat to expect from them..Its also to pick up skills and character so as to become a more desirable and attractive to yr future partner..Cooping yrself up and insisting in remainin single even when the right one comes along might not be dat gd an idea..Some pple ask.."How would I even know if he's the right one??" Ans: There is no answer to dat because unless you've tried it, you wouldnt know unless u cast yr judgement based on the initial encounters.. I'm not asking pple to juz jump into relationships here and there, but rather to be sure dat u r open to partners who offer a potentially high chance of filling up the missing gap in your life..

Nonetheless, there r pple who hv higher priorities then fallin in love at a certain time..But love is often like a butterfly..the more you chase it, the more it eludes you..When you least expect it, it comes to you..Even if u choose to put yr love life to a halt, if it comes it comes, you gotta learn to embrace it, appreciate it.. Trust me, humans are often seeking companionship and there is nothing more exihilarating then being able to share your joy, sorrows, emotions then yr other half..

Wednesday, September 07, 2005

Questions are the answers...

Several runnin events have left me ponderin in their wake.. Things that have left me with many queries at a time of emotional chaos..
Questions... Do girls sometimes like playin hard to get?? So that the guy wld learn to appreciate them when he gets them?? Or some girls leavin the guy suitor dangling ard by not givin him a clear answer if she's not interested and instead pulls him ard by tuggin at his heart strings, giving him hope at crucial times??

Wat is this mysterious force that always keep gers tinkin bout their first love even aft they hv been thru a couple of relationships?? To some extent, some of these gers even get back togeda wif their first bf again, only to break up again aft the supposedly magical feelin din seem to b there anymore.. Well, I've spoke to a few ppl bout it.. N the conclusion i came up wif is dis.. Esp for girls, who are the more emotionally appreciative gender, when they first fall in love.. They are overwhlemed wif all the positive and happy emotions gushin into their body all at one go.. When they see their first bf, it reignites these wonderful emotions of bein in love again everytime they see him.. during their r/s phase.. N it becomes like a mental anchorage of happinesses when they see dat guy.. Cos everytime they see him, they feel happy.. the body recognizes this phenomenon n anchors association of happy feelings to b triggered everytime it sees the guy.. Hence, even aft the breakup, seein the guy again automatically triggers this emotion leavin some gers to be stuck wif the false feelin that they are still in love wif dat guy.. Only aft gettin back togeda again do they realise its not wat they expected or wat they wan.. Go read "Unlimited Power" by Anthony Robbins.



"Love is not automatic. It takes conscious practice and awareness, just like playing the piano or golf. However, you have ample opportunities to practice. Everyone you meet can be your practice session. ~Hari~

Tuesday, September 06, 2005

Body Language..

Gers seems to hv a niche in readin body language..

I remember readin somewhere saying, there are 2 types of pple good at body language. First is women. Second is guys good wif women. I'm beginnin to tink its true. Cos body language is much more diff to lie then verbal language itself. Its like a lie detector. You can tell so much wat a ger is tinkin by observin keenly how she's behavin. And at times even she herself wld not know she's subtlely givin away clues bout her tots.

So I tink if u really wanna b gd wif women, to read wat they r tinkin, its a good idea to invest time n money to learn more bout it.. Go buy a book, listen to tapes and CDs or attend human behaviour seminars or sth.. It's goin to b veri worthwhile..


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