My thoughts on Love Relationships in this blog..Call it a Love Radio Blog if you want..: June 2008

Monday, June 16, 2008

Is letting her way be the right way all the time, the correct way?

I know I haven’t been putting pen to paper for a while now, primarily due to the combination of laziness, a busy lifestyle and the lack of ideas in the past few months. But is letting your other half have his/her way all the time the correct way? Would it then start to breed a familiar form of expectation, that she gets accustomed to having things her way almost all the time? Would that then make the relationship work? Or do you think it would be more important to educate her about giving in to you at times? Perhaps she might already be giving in to you on many occasions without your realization. Instead of you thinking that she’s getting her way all the time, she could be thinking the exact same way about you? Then, now what?

I think it is really crucial for a couple to discuss about such things, especially when friction and disagreements happen, giving rise to an appropriate time to bring up the topic and sort things out, to resolve it as soon as possible. This is in contrast to what many couples do; some choose to bottle it up, some choose to vent it all out. As we all know, communication is the most important bridge in a relationship. Silence is not communication, words of folly in a moment of anger aint communication either. My advice is to take a step back, instead of sprouting nonsense only to regret it later, take some time to let your emotions settle down, look at things from the other person’s point of view and think about the outcome you want. Having said that, refrain from being a soft-hearted Mr. Nice guy all the time. This door mat mentality would kill you over time. It might work out if you were happily married, but there’s a high chance that you would reach your expiry date before that walk down the red aisle comes along.


"When people talk, listen completely. Most people never listen." ~Ernest Hemingway~


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