My thoughts on Love Relationships in this blog..Call it a Love Radio Blog if you want..

Is letting her way be the right way all the time, the correct way?

2008-06-16T12:26:00.001+08:00

I know I haven’t been putting pen to paper for a while now, primarily due to the combination of laziness, a busy lifestyle and the lack of ideas in the past few months. But is letting your other half have his/her way all the time the correct way? Would it then start to breed a familiar form of expectation, that she gets accustomed to having things her way almost all the time? Would that then make the relationship work? Or do you think it would be more important to educate her about giving in to you at times? Perhaps she might already be giving in to you on many occasions without your realization. Instead of you thinking that she’s getting her way all the time, she could be thinking the exact same way about you? Then, now what?

I think it is really crucial for a couple to discuss about such things, especially when friction and disagreements happen, giving rise to an appropriate time to bring up the topic and sort things out, to resolve it as soon as possible. This is in contrast to what many couples do; some choose to bottle it up, some choose to vent it all out. As we all know, communication is the most important bridge in a relationship. Silence is not communication, words of folly in a moment of anger aint communication either. My advice is to take a step back, instead of sprouting nonsense only to regret it later, take some time to let your emotions settle down, look at things from the other person’s point of view and think about the outcome you want. Having said that, refrain from being a soft-hearted Mr. Nice guy all the time. This door mat mentality would kill you over time. It might work out if you were happily married, but there’s a high chance that you would reach your expiry date before that walk down the red aisle comes along.

"When people talk, listen completely. Most people never listen." ~Ernest Hemingway~

I don't feel important anymore..

2008-01-17T12:10:00.000+08:00

It's obvious. Everyone, anyone living for a purpose wants to feel important. Even if it is to a single person, it makes a world of difference. What's more if that person means the world to you, feeling important to that person is probably all that matters. If you ever have your other half complaining or voicing out their concerns that they don't feel as important anymore, perhaps its time to do a little more.

Most of us generally like to dismiss our other halfs as trying to inch their demands a tat too much, but there has always been a tendency for humans to start taking things for granted. Simple gestures of opening the door for your other half, that little surprise just to put a smile on his or her face, going the extra mile to make them comfortable when meeting your friends for the first time etc. The moment you slide into the comfort zone where you think the special things they do for you, is more of your entitlement rather than your privileges, you've probably embarked onto the forbidden path.

Truth is, it is human nature to reciprocate. While everyone likes to be on the receiving end, my advice is, "Give and you shall receive." That's how you can make the relationship work out that little bit better by having a two way-traffic. Point to note, human beings crave real feedback. If you have to wait til she asks, "Do you miss me? Am I important to you? How much?". Whatever answer you give would receive a counter reply, "Bluff!" or "I don't believe you." or "No sincerity. You have to wait til I ask." Bottomline is, even if we know we are important, we sometimes need that extra input from people to give us assurance. So, next time round you appreciate something someone or your other half has done for you, remember, show it. Make people feel important. All the time.

"No matter how busy you are, you must take time to make the other person feel important." ~Mary Kay Ash~

I know this is late but...

2008-01-17T11:14:00.000+08:00

this post is damn late because i've been busy with stuff..
like hanging out with my gf, friends..and of course uni..

but oh well, since people are complaining that i haven't been updating,
here's to assure you all that i'm not dead and still living great!

and,
I LOVE JANICE!!

Close Girl Friends are ok, Close Guy Friends are not?

2007-09-19T13:16:00.000+08:00

Yes, back to business. Let's face the truth, have you never ever gotten jealous of the over zealous guy friends your other halves have? What “Measures” have you then undertaken to ensure you maintain “sovereignty” over your other half? Set an embargo on her guy friends, ensuring that even the close ones now become mere acquaintances to her? Is it then right to be overbearing and dominant to the extent that her male circle of friends drops from an impressive number of 100 to a single male population of 1? You.

I think it is important to distinguish close guy friends from the rest of the population possibly trying to get a piece of her IN your wildest imaginations. As soon as you understand the way girls think, I hope you would be able to set your mind at ease.

The Chasing Game works like this.

First Stage: Girl knows someone from the opposite sex.
Second Stage: Girl proceeds to know more about him.
Third Stage: Girl becomes friends with the guy.
Fourth Stage: Key turning point in the relationship. Girl makes an evaluation on whether both of them remain as friends and become closer friends, or decides that he could be a potential partner.
Fifth Stage: Things settle down. The girl sticks by her decision, because she can no longer see this close guy friend as a potential partner. (Assumption: She no longer carries a secret liking for the guy after she decides to be good friends with him.)

Rest assured, these close guy friends she has are going to remain that way. There is absolutely no threat because even if they wanted something more, more likely than not, your girl is only going to want things to remain they way it was. The way things used to be, the way they like that is in their comfort zone,the heavy inertia. Those of you out there who are still feeling insecure about the threat from her close guy friends, I urge you to quit feeling or acting in this manner. Because it only serves to emphasis your insecurity which would only put her off. At the end of the day, you are more likely to lose the very thing you were trying to protect in the first place. Protection is good, as long as it is in the right manner. Freedom to her demonstrates your self confidence which raises your attractiveness. Respect her freedom and she will love you for that.

"One important key to success is self-confidence." ~Arthur Ashe~

Your Fault or Her's?

2007-06-18T00:45:00.000+08:00

So, what's new? Couple tiffs? Losing your temper with your other half and vice versa?
I was once tol that it is normal for couples to quarrel. Because at least that means that they still care alot for one another.

How then do we decide, what frequency is considered healthy? Is quarrelling on a daily basis considered healthy? Once a week? Or is it dependent on how well an individual can tolerant the frequency of quarrels?

Quarrelling on a daily basis is unlikely to be anything more than two possible scenarios. First up, one party must be getting angry too easily so much so that it results in he or she always in a one way traffic "losing my temper" mode. Second, one party must be an asshole, to be doing things that pisses the other party so very often. It could possibly be a combination of both, but i think its more likely that a relationship has either a person always in "Lose my temper" mode, or an asshole.

The best part about this whole thing is that both parties often thinks that the other party is guilty of the crime mentioned above. The asshole is likely to think that the other party is always in "Lose my temper" mode and likewise the person always in "Lose my temper" mode is likely to think that the other party is an asshole. There isnt exactly a guideline that says what constitutes an asshole and what doesnt. A general rule of thumb would probably be, if your friends tell you that, what your other half has done makes he or she an asshole, it probably means he or she probably is.

Perhaps by now, you are thinking, "Hey, I think my other half is often in a "Lose my temper" mode and I really don't know what was there to be angry about in the first place!

Scenario: You have genuinely inherited a time bomb, a daily one perhaps, waiting to lash out at you or waiting to lose his or her temper at the first possible instance. Its either because its a case of an individual with bad temper, or an individual who unconsciously enjoys the attention or coaxing he or she receives as a result from the temper outburst.

If your other half has a bad temper, it takes guts and tactfulness to inform he or she about this short coming and hopefully things work out.

If it is the attention or coaxing he or she enjoys, then I guess its the individual's choice to continue doing showering such treatment. Or put an end to it by stopping this special treatment and helping your other half realise their less than positive behaviour.

"Anybody can become angry, that is easy; but to be angry with the right person, and to the right degree, and at the right time, and for the right purpose, and in the right way, that is not within everybody's power, that is not easy." ~Aristotle~

Unveilling My Darkest Secrets..

2007-05-18T00:54:00.000+08:00

Have you adopted a "tell everything" attitude in the relationship with your other half? Is that how a relationship should be? Or should the "RULE" apply only under circumstances when it involves insignificant issues?

Filter what to say at your own personal level, or do it at your relationship level between two of you and risk the wrath of your other half? Perhaps many of us feel that there are many things better left unsaid, and would rather keep it to ourselves. What happened to "through thick and thin" and "sharing weal and woe" some may ask? In my honest opinion, I think that the type of attitude to adopt should depend on the level of understanding and maturity both parties have in a relationship. The higher the level, the better the "tell everything" attitude would work out. Imagine having your other half getting upset about everything you have said when you choose to be honest and start telling her everything. Should you continue telling her everything and have her getting upset all the time? Or do you think it would be a good practice to carry on telling her everything in the hope that one day she'll start to view things more positively?

If you choose to keep things from her, how would that work out for your relationship in the long term then? Would it then not feel like you are leading an artificial relationship with your other half because both of you keep secrets from one another? One thing you could ask yourself is, "What are the reasons for keeping those secrets from her"? Is it for fear that you might lose her? Are you then not being fair to her by keeping these secrets from her? I don't know. Those are just opinions based on my point of view. You decide how a relationship should be, but in any other case, trust still holds the key to a relationship.

"If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything."
~Mark Twain~

How much information to withhold from your other half? If any at all?

2007-02-18T22:35:00.000+08:00

People say that there should not be any secrets between a couple, after all, a relationship is all about trust ain it? So is there a need to adopt a "Tell everything" principle, or is it more of a selective "Tell everything" way of principle?

That has left me grappling within myself as there have been times that I withheld what I really want to do or say, simply because I want the best for my other half. Always seeking to have her best interest at heart, but from MY perspective. Big question is, what is it that she really want? Why is it that she does not get the opportunity to put her best foot forward and put your interest before hers? So when you think about it, what is it that she really wants? To do what you want to do, or is it to do what she really is interested in doing? After all, the irony is that, what she really wants to do after considering other factors, is really, what you want to do!

After much pondering, we have decided that the best way is really, to tell the truth. To tell each other how you really feel, and how much you really want to do each event. Subsequently, then we decide upon which activity would give us the best satisfaction. I know this sounds a bit like a logical way of doing things, but at this present moment, this appears to be the best option that would make both parties happier. How would you do it?

"Love is that condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own." ~Robert A. Heinlein~

Anger Management. Nice to friends, Crap to you?

2007-02-08T12:54:00.000+08:00

If she angers easily, dump her or love her? Is your other half temperamental whenever she or he is with you? Is this a good sign or bad sign? I believe this all depends on the individual's perception about such behaviour.

Let me put it in this perspective, if you see a stranger along the streets taking drugs, would you feel emotional towards such behaviour? Unlikely right? This is simply because the stranger has absolutely no importance in your life and you give no hoots about such deplorable behvaiour. However, if it were to be your sibling, would you explode into fits, stomp your feet and drag him/her away immediately? Likely right? My point is, if it is someone important to you, it is very likely that you would display more emotional behaviour when you are unhappy about the other party's behaviour. Nonetheless, please do not use this reason all the time to explain for your bad temper.

What i'm hoping to introduce to you, is the possiblity that your other half's temperamental behaviour could be due to their love and concern for you, that you really matter alot to them. True, it is easy to pinpoint cases where you feel they are oversensitive pricks, taking every chance to blow their top over the simplest things. That sort of situation is down to the individual to sit down their other half and talk things out in the least offensive and indirect manner.

One thing I definitely do know is the phenomenon that some individuals are angels to their friends and devils to their other half..Could it be that they take their other half for granted, they are more passionate to their other half, or it simply they value friends much more? Worst part is when their other half tells his friends about him treating her like crap, they don't believe her. For the simple fact that he is considered a very nice guy, as they perceive..I cant quite comprehend this type of behaviour really..But my best bet is that these individuals feel that its ok to show their real self and rear their ugly heads because their other half would love them for who they really are. Big Question is, is it who they really are? That I cant quite answer. I'm sure there is no absolute explanation that holds true for all similar situations, but i believe the general concept is that the individual holds no punches when in front of their other half whom they have grown accustomed to. That I must say, I do not condone such two faced behaviour..

"A man is about as big as the things that make him angry." ~Winston Churchill~

Love Test, how accurate is it?

2007-01-30T15:42:00.000+08:00

The Keys to Your Heart

You are attracted to those who are unbridled, untrammeled, and free.

In love, you feel the most alive when things are straight-forward, and you're told that you're loved.

You'd like to your lover to think you are loyal and faithful... that you'll never change.

You would be forced to break up with someone who was emotional, moody, and difficult to please.

Your ideal relationship is lasting. You want a relationship that looks to the future... one you can grow with.

Your risk of cheating is zero. You care about society and morality. You would never break a commitment.

You think of marriage as something precious. You'll treasure marriage and treat it as sacred.

In this moment, you think of love as something you thirst for. You'll do anything for love, but you won't fall for it easily.

What Are The Keys To Your Heart?

My Personal Thoughts..

I have participated in several online love quizzes such as that shown above and it always makes me question if all these test have any element of truth in it. Yes, perhaps psychiatrists have based their research upon various decision making to establish links with the emotional desires and behaviour of an individual. Nonetheless, we all know that we can never say for sure how an individual would react until the actual situation or scenario happens..Just a food for thought..

Masculine with Feminism Appeal

2007-01-13T23:49:00.000+08:00

Walked down the streets and seen a guy who seem to ooze masculine appeal, yet the girls don't seem to be impressed? Or how some girls can be seen as gorgeous by her fellow females, but yet to the guys, she doesnt seem to be anymore than above average? Arguments about whether a girl seen on the streets is pretty is commonly debated between a guy n a girl. Yet interestingly enough, girls often agreed on another girl's good looks, while guys have their own take on the same girl. Is this a case of feminism oozing guy appeal?

I often used to wonder, why is it that there is this guy whom is talked about with fanfare by the girls, but yet in the eyes of the guys, he's nothing more than just a pretty face, or even average looking. While there are guys whom are looked upon secretly with envy and respect by other guys for their charisma and good looks, with the girls thinking otherwise. I figured its probably guys and girls are attracted to slightly different things, and people I have asked have mostly agreed upon that.

What is this factor we probably wouldn't know, but perhaps can be found within guys or girls who appeal to both genders. From a guy's point of view I can figure what attracts me, as from a girl's point of view, I can't quite know. Take a girl more example, guys are usually unconsciously attracted to slutty girls mostly for the fact that they fantasize about having a wild one night stand with them. For most reasons, its the unexplainable sexual appeal these girls have on guys. Well of cos, there are guys who are put off by them, but that's the minority and it is usually a love hate relationship we have with these girls. Either we love them or we hate them. As for guys oozing masculine appeal, other guys look up to them as they secretly seek to emulate them, both physically and intellectually. Or for unexplainable reasons, these guys are simply charming in the eyes of other guys. Interestingly enough, this develops scenarios where the guy admires this alpha male, while the girl thinks there's nothing really special that draws her towards that guy.

I believe that was why the term X factor was created. To help us explain humans' unpredictable emotional behavior. Something for us to use as a reason why an individual attracts us while another with better looks, better brain, better everything, fails to. Yes, the less logical part of us at work. That I can’t quite figure out..

"It matters more what's in a woman's face than what's on it." ~Claudette Colbert, quoted in Kindling the Spirit by Lois P. Frankel~

Handphone, payphone or house phone?

2007-01-11T16:59:00.000+08:00

Is it true that couples never run out of things to say? Chit chatting on the phone every night talking about everything under the sun,and even the most trivial things? To find out more about our partner's behaviour and mentality? Or is it simply because her voice is music to our ears? Read a magazine today about daily communications strengthening relationships. Especially long term ones. Most relationships start off strong and passionate fuelled by the daily phone calls couples have with one another although they see each other everyday. The irony is that after a period of time, at a point when daily phone calls are at its most important, couples tend to overlook it as they place less emphasis on spending time on the phone, preferring to spend time on other activities instead, reassuring themselves with the “Excuse” that there isn’t much to talk about on the phone anyway. I ain exactly sure how phone calls at the later stage of a relationship can help bond a couple closer together, but I figure there are several possibilities on this.

First, a relationship isn’t something like doing all the nice stuff for your other half, think that you’ve scored enough brownie points, then take a breather and stop. Of which usually once you decide to take a breather, you don’t restart after that. Haha. Its like pouring water into a cup with a small hole at the bottom, the water keeps leaking out with time. You wouldn’t want to wait til its dry before you top it up. Idea is to keep filling the cup with water and keep the water level high, akin to scoring brownie points with your other half. Get the gist? So daily phone calls I guess effectively helps to strengthen the relationship each day, little by little daily.

Next up, when there are daily updates on your other half’s lifestyle and activities, it helps that you can share the joy and problems almost immediately and both of you can ride through the storm together. With each passing obstacle, you grow stronger. Especially when you know everything about the ongoings of your other half, it shows that you care and you are concerned. Imagine someone else having to tell you that your other half intends to switch schools with you not having the slightest idea? That would be disastrous don’t you think? Such a major decision and yet you are not in the loop shows a lot..

So daily phone calls or not? I guess the main idea is that as long as a couple is constantly in close contact with one another, it should do the trick. The choice is yours.

"The problem with communication ... is the illusion that it has been accomplished." ~George Bernard Shaw~

How romantic is your relationship?

2006-12-15T00:19:00.000+08:00

Girl A: My relationship is not romantic at all...
Girl B: Oh,why is that so? You mean he doesn't do anything romantic for you?
Girl A: Yeah, after the first month our relationship, the romance just died down..
Girl B: OMG, do you mean no more gifts, no more surprises, no more sweet nothings?
Girl A: Exactly!!! Furthermore, ............. and .......
(Possible Conversation between 2 close girl friends talking about their relationship.)

Honestly, let's face it..How common do you think such a conversation happens between girls? Or anything that bears similarity? I bet it has happened to you before hasnt it?

It has always puzzled me about what it really means for a relationship to be considered romantic..Does the guy have to be always popping our surprises? Getting visually pleasing things for the girl? Whispering mushy words to her? Or simply anything creative that blows her mind off because she never did expect it? Something that is full of thought and effort?

Is there a specific set of rules guys actually have to follow, a set of things that they should do to be considered romantic? Especially have done something that allows the girl to narrate to her friends with pride when they ask, "What's the most romantic thing he has ever done for you?" In other words, it appears that a romantic relationship is based upon what romantic stuff the guy has done for the girl or the many little gestures that he does to portray his love for her.

The BIG QUESTION that lies ahead is, is the romance of a relationship determined by what the guy does for the relationship? Or does the girl play an important part as well?? It certainly takes two hands to clap for a relationship to work..Perhaps, girls should start asking themselves, what is the most romantic thing SHE has ever done for him. For if your guy can answer that question, then kudos to you, for you have shown that being in a relationship ain about receiving all the time. My message is that how romantic a relationship isnt determined by the guy at all, the girl plays a huge part as well. So girls, please do your part for the relationship and you will come out of it feeling much more satisfied.

Well, my advice to all guys out there, if you have been in your relationship long enough, and yes i consider a year or more to be long, please do ensure that your girl ain left stumped when she is asked that question about the most romantic thing you have ever done for her. If that happens, I would consider it to be pretty miserable for her.

"Give and you shall receive."~Anonymous~

How often is enough, really?

2006-11-28T16:09:00.000+08:00

Many couples can't stand being away from one another for more than a day, can't stand not hearing the other party's voice for more than an hour. Yet there are some who don't think twice about seeing one another just once a month or sending an sms just once a week..How often is enough, really?

There ain really any hard and fast rule that we have to live by, because ultimately it depends on the close proximity between both parties, and the expectations they carry with them when in the relationship. Some couples carry the opinion that there is no need to see each other so often, or call each other so often, while there are some who cant see each other enough even though they meet everyday.

Truth behold, if the relationship reaches a point where its just a random phone call or meeting because both of you happen to be free, where is the commitment really? What's more, doesnt that sound like what you would do with any friend? What difference does it really make? Most couples usually start off passionate and fiery, which easily motivates them to have the desire to see and hear their other half. So when the relationship stops getting passionate after a while, of which it is bound to happen, what do we do next? Stop calling, meet less? Or because of a commitment to maintain the relationship, both parties make a conscious effort to make time for one another. I'm not calling upon people to see each other everyday or call one another, but rather, seek a frequency which you feel is justifiable and helps the relationship grow. Guys, stop being less humourous from the time when you tried humouring your girl when you two first met..Girls, stop being less appreciate from the time when he first opened the door for you when you two first met..

Believe it or not, every couple would go through 3 stages + 1 optional stage in their relationship.

The passionate stage, where two cant keep your hands off one another, can't stop seeing one another, can't stop thinking of one another.

The storming stage, where the passion dies off and you start getting used to the usual routine of hanging out with him, hearing his voice and yes, taking him for granted..Same for the guys, it works both ways. Then it reaches a point when both of you decided whether to continue this mundane pattern, or to put in a conscious effort to spruce it up.

The stability stage, where the two of you decide to give more weight to the relationship and make it work for the long term. Jumping from relationships to relationships could be thrilling intitally, but after a while, we develop a stone heart and start losing faith in relationships. Which is why reaching the stability stage is of utmost importance. That is if you decide that in the long run, you do intend to get married and settle down.

Of course, the final optional stage is the break up stage. At any point in time if you think the relationship is not gonna work, and having put in enough effort to try and make it work, drop it. Quit wasting your time, the other party's time and move on. Its not anyone's fault, but the pieces probably don't fit.

How often to communicate, how often you choose to see your other half, really depends on you. What you want from the relationship..If you still cant bear not to see your other half almost everyday more than a year from your relationship? Good on you. If its only been a month and you are starting to tire out, I suggest that you either try to reignite the fire within the both of you, or quit wasting time..

"The greatest problem in communication is the illusion that it has been accomplished."
~George Bernard Shaw~

Tell her I don't love her even though, deep inside I really do..

2006-11-18T13:40:00.000+08:00

Are you someone who's like to communicate messages across to your partner silently? This could sometimes lead to condusion and frustration as the other party does not know where you are coming from..The importance of good communcation cannot be stressed enough..Think again.

I have a story to tell...

It had been raining for more than a week, so much rain it made everyday seemed so restless and gloomy. She called and said she was coming up. It was the third time she came up to see me that week. I carried her excuse of why she came all the way here and went to meet her at the nearby seven-eleven. She was standing there alone, carrying her red umbrella. Her friend had dropped her off. It was raining and she was shivering. She looked weak and fragile in the harsh rain, wearing not enough to keep her warm.
I walked up to her and said, "You shouldn't come see me anymore," and stuff like how we shouldn't be together.

She said, "I miss you."

I told her coldly, "Lets go, I'll take you home."

She did not open up her umbrella, I knew she wanted to share mine.

I said, "Open up your umbrella, let's go."

Unwillingly, She opened up her umbrella and walked with me to the car. She said she hadn't eat lunch or dinner and asked if we could stop at some place to eat.

Right away I answered with a stoned heart, "No!"

Disappointed, she asked me to take her to the train station, she said she would take the train back home.

Maybe it was the rain, all the trains were full of people with umbrellas and suit cases who were eager to get home, not caring about who just passed by. We waited and waited, she looked at me innocently. Being together for so long, of course I knew what she meant. I understand how she must feel when she came all this way here in this kind of weather and I treat her like this. With her soft eyes staring at me, I felt guilt and wanted to let her stay for the night.

But reality struck again, I said to her coldly, "Let's go try the other train station."

We were walking along the side of the road. She was in front of me and I was right behind her. Her umbrella had a broken spoke. She looked liked a wounded soldier, carrying her rusted rifle walking weakly. Many times, she was too into thinking or whatever she was doing, drifting off the road, she almost got hit by the cars passing by. I wanted to just take her in my arms, but with the love I had for her and the constant pain in my stomach, I did nothing. On the way, we passed by the park where we use to always go.

She begged and said, "Lets go in the park just for a little while please, I promise I'll go home right after this."

With her begging, my cold heart softened, but I still put up an annoyed face and walked in the park. I was just sitting on the benches looking like I wanted to leave. She went to the big oak tree and she was looking for something. I knew she was looking for what we wrote on that tree with a silver ink pen half a year ago. If I remember it right, it said, "Chris and Susan was here, Chris had tea and Susan was drinking hot chocolate. Hope Chris and Susan would always remember this day, always loving each other, forever." She was looking around for quite a while, then she came back slowly with tears on her face.

She said, "Chris, I can't find it, it's not there anymore."

I felt so sour inside, there was a stream of pain, flowing into my heart, the kind of pain I've never felt before. But all I could do was pretend I didn't care, and said, "Can we go now?"

I opened up my big black umbrella, she was just standing there, didn't want to leave yet, hoping there was still a chance. She said, "You made up the story of you and that other girl didn't you? I know I frustrate you sometimes, but I'll change, can't we start over?"

I didn't say a word, just looked down and shook my head. After that we just kept on walking towards the train station, didn't say a word to each other.

Four years ago, the doctor said I had cancer, but it was found early, so it was still curable. Thinking that it was okay, I started living my normal life again, and even forgot about the cancer. I didn't think about the cancer again and did not go back to the doctor. Until a month ago, my stomach was hurting for two weeks straight, and the nightmare awakened me again. First I thought the pain wouldl go away, but it grew stronger until to the point that I couldn't take it anymore. I went back to the doctor and took an X-ray. The picture came out and there was a big black spot, which proved the truth that I did not want to believe. I was at the most glittering part of my life, but it was coming to an end. I wanted myself and the people around me to go through the least pain possible, so I decided to commit suicide.

But I couldn't let people find out about my intentions, especially Susan, the person I love the most in this whole world, who still doesn't know about the truth. Susan was still young, she shouldn't have to go through this. So I made up some stories and lied to her. It was a cruel thing to do, and it broke her heart, but it was the fastest way to wipe out three years's feelings. I didn't have much time, because I would soon start to loose hair and she would find out eventually. But now I'm close to succeeding, this drama would soon be over. Thirty minutes more this would all come to an end, that was what I had in mind.

The train had stopped running so I called a taxi for her. We were just standing there, waiting, loosing our last moments in silence.

I saw the taxi from far away, I held my tears and said to her, "Take care of yourself, take good care of yourself."

She didn't talk, just nodded lightly, and then opened up her misshaped umbrella and stepped out on the street. Finally I couldn't hold my sorrow and the twist in my heart any longer, waving my arms rapidly chasing after the taxi, because I knew, this would be the last time I see her.

I wanted to tell her I still love her, I wanted to tell her to stay, I wanted to tell her so much, but the taxi had already turned in the corner. Warm tears kept falling down my face, blended with the cold rain drops. I was cold, not because of the rain. I was cold inside.

She left, and I didn't get anymore of her phone calls even until today. I know she didn't see my tears, because they were washed away by the rain. I left without regrets. But I'm not Chris, I'm that girl Susan, using my memory, and his diary I found after one year since he left, writing down these last words.

There's no definition to relationships

2006-11-08T09:26:00.000+08:00

Its been ages since I last updated this thing..Recently, there was this guy in my school from one of my classes, asking me about how he can get a girl successfully..It brought me back to the question on whether are there anything specific we could do to win the girl's heart..

There is no magical way, but perhaps a few general styles, just like in sports, different people with different playing styles can still deliver when it happens. Let me reiterate, the essence of it is to BE YOURSELF. When you have nothing to hide, you will give a genuine feelin to those around you and that works like a charm. Then again, if you feel that you don't exactly have the character that is labelled under "Nice Guy", don't worry, you don't have to.

Guys should thank our lucky stars that girls really don't prioritize looks at much as guys do. Of course character plays a part still for guys, but for the girls, its more than juz looks that they look for..I have talked all these stuff previously in more detail already, so if he happens to come across this, maybe he can back date his reading..

One more thing, ever wondered how people always have this ideal personality traits or physical attributes that they look out for when getting a partner? Yet almost everytime, the partner you see that they have is almost the complete opposite.. Morale of the lesson? All these things ain exactly the criteria for someone to like you, but rather its the feeling that you give them. The kind of feeling,which the girl subconsciously is attracted to..For example, sense of security, making her feel comfortable and at ease when she's with you, of course, being able to communicate well with her and conduct a decent conversation..Those are the minimum requirements in my opinion, but my point is, there is no hard and fast rule to all these kind of stuff..

That's the thing about relationships, there's no guideline and many things happen for no reason, no explaination..I learnt that my logical mind doesnt work all the time in these scenario, as someone close to me has demonstrated that to me. Helped me discover something of such importance..Yes,I've improved as a person..=)

Hang on or drag on???

2006-08-13T00:41:00.000+08:00

Those of you who are in a relationship now, put your hands up!! Those of you who have been in a relationship with the same partner keep your hands up!! Those who are still crazy and madly in love, hands remain up!! Now..How many people do you think still have the hands up??

The point I'm trying to bring across is..How many relationships nowadays still remain hot and passionate after a long period of time?? I'm not referring to marriage as it is a life long commitment..No affairs allowed, no flirting allowed.. But in a BGR, where the only commitment agreed upon remains in the hearts of 2 people, many a time, we tend to linger along the limits of the "terms" of a relationship. For example, do you believe that we can fall deeply for more than 1 person at the same time? Even if you have a gf/bf..

I've heard of many cases of relationships whereby the only reason why the ger still stays with the guy is because she doesnt wanna break his heart even though she doesnt like him anymore..There have been things like.."Oh, he treats me really nice.." "Oh, he's a really nice guy..." "Oh, he's going through a rough patch in life and cant take another blow.." "Hmmm..I know I shouldnt drag it any longer, but i cant help it.." Don't all these reasons (excuses) sound sssssooooo familiar??

Well, I guess if you belong to such a category, you should take a second look at yourself and make a decision..To hang on or drag on? A decision to see if you wanna try your best to salvage the relationship and fall in love with him again..Or, let it drag and drag and cause endless turmoil and torture to your own life..Is it a waste of your own time and a waste of both your youth? That you decide..

Remember, time waits for no one..Our happiness ultimately lies in our own hands..

Miss Perfect? Or does she even exist anymore?

2006-08-13T00:17:00.000+08:00

Many times I wonder, many times I ponder..About whether I will ever find my perfect someone throughout my whole life..

Everytime you meet someone new, someone who gives you butterflies in the stomach and sends your heart thumping like crazy..You will question yourself, is she gonna be the one? We hesitate, we analyse, and in most cases we end up paralysed. I always felt that finding that perfect someone, would mean that the person has to be at the right time, right place for sparks to fly. Sometimes you think, "Hey, I think she's the perfect one for me!! Why doesnt she reciprocate my feelings no matter how hard I try?" I guess, in this scenario, she's probably not the perfect one. Why so? If she is, then it has to be a perfect match whereby she sees you as someone who is just as special. Otherwise, its just one way traffic.

We think we are still young, there is still time to continue our search for the perfect one. Just like human nature, we always feel that that the grass on the other side of the pasture is greener, ending up being fickle minded. Yet, if we don't try, how can we know if there's actually someone who is better??

On a personal scale, I believe that there will never, I repeat, NEVER be a case of finding the perfect one. Yet, I'm on a quest to try and learn from each failed relationship, sharpening my judgement on finding someone who is close to being the perfect one for me..

Perhaps as time goes by, as time starts countin down and age starts catching up on me, I might end up settling for someone who is far from being my perfect one..Is that what is happening to couples nowadays? Many times, when people describe their perfect someone, looking at their current partner, the attributes are like the total opposite..It doesnt make sense I know, but it happens. So is finding the perfect one just medicine for our imaginative minds or can it ever happen??

Why that??

2006-03-04T22:31:00.000+08:00

Why give that to your other half??

Don't get what I mean? Well,many couples buying presents for one another is mostly based on the emotional or physical level of their thriving relationships. In the name of fun probably,they tend to give each other more sexually related gifts from sexy lingerie to a flavoured condom. Lingerie for the girl to don and feel sexy or as eye candy for the guy? I guess it works both ways.

In this modern age, many young couples are pretty much at ease with their own sexuality which could potentially explain the steady rise in pre marital sex among youngsters. The culture within Singapore has slowly started to open up in terms of speaking and behaving in more sexually suggestive manners. It is no longer a taboo topic, rather it has been widely embraced among the modern generation. Save for that few traditional family which still stick to the "No talking allowed when eating, no drinking of water before water etc." traditions.

Have you encountered a similar situation or mindset when you gave a certain gift or said something in a certain way simply because you had a hidden agenda or rather, a different intention beyond what's perceived? Or maybe simply just engaging in the common saying of killing 2 birds with one stone. I personally feel that the attraction between couples must be strongly balanced between physical attraction and emotional attraction. Too much of either one can be overbearing and dulls the relationship over time as one side of it tends to dominate overtime.

The key to a successful relationship cant do without a sexual portion where both parties engage in sexually enhancing activities. Hear ME!! I'm not encouraging pre marital sex here, but the thing is, if either party is not comfortable with public display of affection aka PDA, it damages the relationship in the long term as suspicion and feelings of neglect creep in. Who doesnt like being told or being showered with love in public? If you don't, then perhaps you should reconsider your position to see if you are really in love with yr partner and proud to have her. Maybe there is this inner feeling within you that is secretly having reservations because you are not sure if you like her.

Guilty? Then maybe its time for you to decide if things are going in the right direction or is there a need for change.

"If you don't change your way of thinking, you will be headed where you are going. A change of direction requires a change of mindset."~Jim Dornan~

Emotional Cycle. Can it dictate your dreams?

2006-01-16T18:03:00.000+08:00

Emotional Cycles..How real is that for everyone?

Have there ever been times for you where you simply cannot understand why you are feeling down without any significant happenings to explain why you feel the way you feel? Feeling all vulnerable and lousy, insignificant like nobody cares? Sometimes, waking up like you've woken up on the wrong side of the bed.
Yet, there are times where we just cannot account for the euphoria gushing through our whole body, feeling full of energy and invincible. The level of enthusiasm which drives you to wanna make a difference in people's life, to be significant in society.

Ever since the creation of man, humans in the world have been mainly been driven by their emotions and wants, the desire to achieve their dreams or what they want..However, how many of us living in this modern age today can claim to have dared to dream big enough to work towards achieving it?

It is very important to know what you want in life..If you don't, then maybe its high time you took some time out in search of what you want. So even if you don't feel like doing something on a day where you feel lousy, you'll still be able to push yourself to do it because at the end of the day, you know that it will mean getting one more step closer to achieving your dreams..

Some common dreams for pple could be like
1. Travelling round the world, and in style..
2. Having more time with theie family and having a less stressful life
3. Being able to cater to your children's needs and wants, given them the best possible education
4. To be debt free, for people who are sick of having to pay interest for debts
5. Owning their own business to be their own boss and be self employed
6. Just having that extra income to have a better lifestyle
7. Improve their current standard of living be it for themselves alone or also for their own family members
8. Helping others and rendering their services to the charity

Well of cos, there are many other more. Bottomline is, just like me, many people find an extra sense of attractiveness about the opposite sex when the person has a dream and has a plan to achieve it. Do you have one?

If you have one or have found one,feel free to let everyone know, so they can share your excitement. If the desire is strong enough and you possess the willingness to work towards it no matter what it takes, you will succeed. For when dreams become reality, that's when the euphoric feeling takes over leaving you breathless..

Share your dreams, put it down on the tagboard!

To shrink your dreams to fit your reality or to expand your reality to fit your dreams? ~Anonymous~

Male Hormones or just Plain Poor Hormones?

2006-01-14T15:11:00.000+08:00

There is no doubt everyone, anyone, can differentiate a good looking person from another not so good looking one. Some gers are prettier than the other, and some are more desirable in the eyes of different pple. "Beauty is in the eye of the beholder."

Somehow or rather, a ger could be as hot as a celebrity, and the guy whom she's with might not necessarily stay smitten with her the whole time if another ger of a similar calibre comes along. Eg. Guy walks along Orchard Road togeda with hot babe A, with hot babe B passing by..Where do you tink his gaze wld b? Bingo! The latter one.. Distractions distractions.

Well of cos, its no harm just taking a look rite? Bottomline is, humans like changes, and novelty is always attractive to us. Few guys can resist the charm of an attractive ger who throws herself at a guy even if the guy has a very attractive gerfren. Personally, I've heard of a couple of stories from guys who are very good looking themselves, admitting to have given in to the devil of temptation and indulged in a night of unfaithfulness simply because they failed to take control of theri male hormones. It might not be to the degree of engaging in the act itself, but pretty much sexual in nature. At the end of the day, they are still very much in love with their ger, but on second thought, how much respect is given to the ger in this relationship of commitment?

Playboys, aka, Casanovas. Classic breed of pple who change gers like they change clothes as pple usually refer to this bad habit of theirs. Wait.. Bad habit or not? Or it is simply letting the male hormones go on cruise control? Male hormones, or just plain poor hormones? Think about it

Life after Breakups? Life after a sexually fuelled relationship??

2005-12-16T16:52:00.000+08:00

So how does it go? How does your life go after a breakup?? I remember speaking to a fren about his relationship. He was like a jailbird, having to go back to his gf's home everyday, hardly being able to go out with his frenz, simply because she wants him to accompany him. He shifted to her place because she wanted him by her side. What about your parents i asked? Is there anything wrong going on at home? "No", he said. Its only because he thinks his gf needs him more.

Well, personally I cant embrace this idea because I'm an extremely family orientated person, nonetheless, I can accept his reason and his belief. Question is, why is he going to such extremes, or rather tolerating such behaviour? "I'm Afraid", he said. Afraid of what? "Losing her". What? This is the god knows how many times I've heard people go to extreme measures just so they can keep the relationship going. Not healthy, definitely a NO NO. To him, he's afraid to lose her because he had experienced many bad relationships before this, yet is this one worth keeping? I mumbled to myself.

Not to say the least, in this generation where premarital sex is widely rampant, he is also unwillingly to give it up. "Words of Apparent Wisdom", many people say, "The sex is good", "The sex was good","It was good while it lasted","Sex was probably what kept things going","I enjoyed the sex" so on so forth.

A big thing to ponder about is, if sex is the thing that is keeping the relationship together, its utterly disappointing. Meaningless to carry on. Yet, YEETTTT I've seen ssssooooooo many countless cases, girls especially, who give up their bodies, giving in to their bf's sexual demands, hoping to keep him, or in worst cases, to win him back. All else failing, what are you going to do? I mean, are you someone who has been engaging in lots of sex with your partner in each relationship you get yourself into?? Is that the idea of commitment,to give yourself the excuse or to convince yourself that it gives you a valid excuse to have sex? I'm not saying its a bad idea or a good one either, point is, if a relationship is sex driven, chances are its not going to last in the long run. Logically, we know we have to give up, yet many of us, find it hard to let go. Its frustrating to see couples like that, but we all know its easy to say, difficult to do..Think about the direction your current relationship is going, and perhaps go through a revision with your partner to guide your relationship in the right direction if you think you are not comfortable with the present one. For the singles, hopefully you have a better idea of what to expect or what to do when you do find somebody suitable.

The question in life is not whether you get knocked down. You will. The question is, are you ready to get back up... And fight for what you believe in? ~Dan Quayle~

Is it the end of the world for you if you fail to find the love of your life in University??

2005-12-04T15:02:00.000+08:00

Many guys cant wait to finish their service to start the next phase of their life. University life. The supposedly heaven of highly in demand singles all in search for a partner.. So all that they do the whole time in NS is just to await this promised "land" where they will finally find the love of their life. Therefore, there have been many cases of guys who portray themselves as desperados, hungry wolves just waiting to move in for the kill. Earning the reputation of being Girlfriend stealers, the guy who tries too hard, loser who's just too desperate etc.

Well, I cant exactly blame them becos this seems to be the general belief floating around. When the guys loses his ger while in NS, what do pple say? "Dun worry, there's plenty of gers to choose from once you are in university." When the guy is single in NS and asks pple around why issit that they cant seem to meet any new gers, what do pple say? "Dun worry, there's plenty of gers to choose from once you are in university."
When he's too busy with his NS and doesnt have time to socialise or to start looking for a love partner, what does he convince himself with? "Dun worry, there's plenty of gers to choose from once you are in university."

After 2 years of self indoctrination and extensive influence by those around them, a mental anchorage is established with the belief that UNIVERSITY = FINDING A LOVE PARTNER. Personally, I feel there's no denyin that University life is extremely favourable and conducive for people to start the search for a suitable partner. Many actiivies and events are also tuned towards providing more opportunities for the opposite genders to interact and mix around. I would not go to the extent of saying that you would not be able to find your lifetime partner if you cant find one in the university in one way or another, eg. not studying in university or just focusing on your studies in university. Just that, in the university phase, there is indeed a huge pool of desirable girls/guys to choose from, thus increasing yuor chances of finding a really fantastic partner for yourself.

I'm alarmed that some pple in university are not showing much interest in finding their lifetime partner, binded by the misconception that they will similarly be able to find "THE ONE" in their workplace after graduation even if they cant seem to meet anybody suitable in university. Well, don't they realise that by then, the chances would have greatly diminished due to the fact that the more desirable ones have been taken up or their lack of exposure in meeting more people. Yes, it depends on the nature of their jobs, but I'm just saying in general.

University is not just about getting a degree to open up doors to highly paid jobs, it is also about learning and honing your socialising skills. Don't fret if you have not been successful in the love department, but don't give up. Never give up. Because life is more than just about studying hard and working hard.

It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed.
~Theodore Roosevelt~

The Umbrella and Bicycle Story

2005-11-29T21:39:00.000+08:00

The weather for the past few days has been relatively wet, getting a fair bit of rain. I had to get to a far corner of my camp to settle some stuff with a heavy book in hand..Looking up into the sky, the dark clouds seemed to be gathering in preparation for yet another downpour. It was now between a choice of taking the bicycle, getting there and back in double quick time, saving invaluable time or pickin out the slower and more treacherous route of cutting across the grassy fields with an umbrella in hand in case it rains anytime during my trip there and back.

Well, if you realise, I would not be able to protect myself from the rain and could possibly be trapped in the far corner of my camp if it rains anytime while I'm riding since I cant possibly be holding an umbrella and a heavy book while I'm riding can I? =)

Tough decision making ain it? While, many times in life we are often faced with such a dilemma..And time does not stop running while you are trying to seek out the best option to take up. Ever met a guy who sweeps you off your feet and he gives you the most comfortable and exciting feeling everytime you are with him?? Yet, you know that from his relationship backgrounds that he is one who cant commit to long relationships.. Next came along a guy who has all the qualities and character of a good husband. Somebody you know will be viewed with approbation by your parents and peers. Good looks and a sharp brain further goes to reinforce the idea. Nice to hang out with, but deep in your heart you know that it is the former who really gives you the feeling of being in love.

Secretly hoping to explore the possiblity of being the special one who's able to keep his heart tightly locked up with you..While you are deciding, time keeps running, both of these two highly desirable are constantly attracting many other female suitors, yet they only have eyes for you.. However, over time as more attractive female suitors come along, both of them might change their mind before you decide..What will you do? What will you do??

We are still masters of our fate.We are still captains of out souls.
~Winston Churchill~

Exam Stress that gets couples going? Or just tension that gets them grooving?

2005-11-08T09:53:00.000+08:00

Met one of my specialists who came back to get his pink IC, aka highest rank in the whole place, Civilian. Mentioned to me that he has gotten together with this ger dat he likes, after her exam and had thanked me for offering invaluable advice with regards to exams tension..

A couple of months back, there was already brewing tension between him and the ger..With her exams coming this month..His original intention was to wait til her exams before asking her for her "hand in marriage". Yet he did it just before her exams. Why so? He decided to follow my opinions with regards to exams stress. What this magical force is I don't know, how it makes sense I don't know either.However, what i do know is, many couples tend to get together just before exams, which is actually the worst time to get together because you should be focusing on your exams??

In my opinion, it is actually the best time to come together. Well, it allows both parties to save time and effort quelling and coping with the obvious sexual tension brewing between them. Getting together solves one aspect of the distraction becos they can put it to one side and focus more on their studies. Some pple might beg to differ as they tink the couple might end up spending more time being lovey dovey and all. Yes, being lovey dovey for a new couple is unavoidable, but the onus of having the discipline in managing their own time falls on the couple.

With regards to why exams stress gets the love cupid going is mainly down to human nature. Haven you realised that humans are hardly ever lone rangers or living in solitude? Mostly all of us yearn to be in good company, to have a good laugh or a crying shoulder. During this exam period where we are all living in a discomfort zone, we tend to seek company more than ever. "Ever wondered why a majority of people study in groups??". Hence, to me, to boost your rate of success depends on how you are able to manage the timing of popping the right question at the right time.

Some critics might tink that if a couple is meant to be together, they will be if they really like each other. Thats plain bulls***. Our fate lies in our own hands, we are the ones who actually make it happen. Success is never based on inaction. You want it to happen? YOU make it happen.

It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed.
~Theodore Roosevelt~

Is HE the one for you??

2005-10-26T11:03:00.000+08:00

I believe many people have encountered instances when u fall in love wif a counterpart and it apppears you are the only one who seems to see the positives in the person while everyone else rejects him or allowing you to even harbouring the idea of being wif the person. General reaction?? Persistence in continuing what you tink you want before usually giving up ultimately. Cos usually the ger would say to herself, "Well, at the end of the day, its me who would be wif him, not anyone else, so why should I care wat other pple tink?" This self-convincing effort normally does not last beyond the time when the ger grows weary and tired of resisting and gives in to all the relentless verbal attacks by those around her and choose to give up.

I personally believe all these things happening can only boil down to attitude. Let's face it, beyond the possiblity of you being plainly blinded by love failing to see all the possible flaws in the person and the likelihood of the relationship taking a freefall in the near future, you can only if you tink u can. Success in love is a state of mind. If you want success in love, start thinking that you will be successful in love. We can always choose to be optimistic about a particular relationship or to be pessimistic. "The optimist is right, so is the pessimistic." How positive an image a person portrays sometimes boils down to how other people choose to look at him in the first place. For eg. Some parents don't even know their kid's counterpart and have already started objecting without even getting to know him in the first place!! Plain ignorance or unreasonable? Both. How can they ever expect their kids to respect such a behaviour especially coming from people whom have grown to become role models in the eyes of their offsprings? Point is, they have chosen to see all the possible negatives that will come from the relationship, instead of the positives their kids are seeing from the relationship. Love is Blind? Absolutely.

See the power of attitude? Whether he is the right one for you all depends on you. How you choose to evaluate his suitability in the future especially when this magic aura of "Love is blind" wears off along with the passion where we start to see the downside of our "PERFECT ONE". Nonetheless, long lasting relationships depends on the attitude both parties adopt, never never never give up. Until you've decided you gave the relationship enough chances to prove itself.

Note: Which sometimes explains why some girls are just plain stupid to stick to relationships which are obviously not going anywhere. Its a joke whenever I see these girls entangled in their own love web, not knowing what to do yet giving advice to other girls in love trouble, particularly when they themselves are not doing what they preach. Blind leading the blind. "Talk is cheap."

"What this power is I cannot say; all I know is that it exists and it becomes available only when a man is in that state of mind in which he knows exactly what he wants and is fully determined not to quit until he finds it." ~Alexander Graham Bell~ (Inventor of the first telephone in the world)

Is it the REAL you??

2005-10-23T18:21:00.000+08:00

Was talking about how people have multiple personalities..I'm not referring to split personality disorder, but rather it being human nature that we often put up different masks when we are with different people facing different scenarios and circumstances..Different occasions calls for different behaviour to be part of the social norm.

"When in Rome, speak and do like the Romans do."

More often than not, we are always asking ourselves if the latest "crazy" thing you just did was YOU. Question is, do you really know who you really are?? Like in any other case, your other half whom you are dating, is it the real them?? Just like I said previously, we can strive and learn to behave like someone whom we see as a role model..It's not being fake or putting up the best oscar performance you know, but about character development and improving as a person.

True, sometimes you might wonder if your other half's occasional irrational behaviour warrants a belief that their "REAL" character might be fundamentally unpleasant based on their occasional outbursts of temper or stupidity. Alternatively, being all nice to all his friends, parents, basically everyone else except YOU!!! A possible scenario could also be he being all nasty to everyone else, but being all sweet and lovely to you..Getting you worried the whole day if he might turn out being nasty to you once he decides you are not the one for him or stops loving you..

Bottomline why I'm sayin this is, there is absolutely no worries about trying to find out who you are exactly. Ultimately, humans are always adatping to the latest changing conditions, and changing in prioritization of principles based on the situation. Perhaps you can find out vaguely who you really are, but you will never find out who you exactly are, because just like the environment, we are constantly changing too. Emotionally, physically, mentally..

Book recommendation. "Personality Plus" by Florence Lithauer.
Seriously, go get this book if you are really serious about finding out mroe about yourself and understanding why those around you behave the way they behave. Good luck.

Lose it to treasure it??

2005-10-12T18:25:00.000+08:00

Quidam Cirque de Soleil = $131, Michael Buble Concert = $128, Time spend with your loved ones = Priceless. Many times in life, humans only start to treasure and appreciate what they have until they lose it.. Question is, are you one of them?? Is there really a need to lose it before you can treasure its value?? E.g Losing your house keys, handphone.. Well, of cos your other half or the impt people in yr life..

Primarily, I tink in all relationships, the storyline is always the same old thing.. Boy breaks up wif ger, ger breaks up wif guy.. More often than not, the old feelings of love and passion starts rushin back once again once they realise tte other party has found somebody new.. Somehow or rather, this feeling of jealousy comes rushin back and urges the body to yearn for the other party once again.. Sounds all too familiar??

We could all blabber and blabber bout startin to appreciate what you have right now, be thankful for it and all.. But i tink this phenomenon will never be solved, because it is simply human nature.. All I'm asking you to do, is a favour to yrself.. Make a conscious effort today, to show a small gesture of appreaciation to pple you value, by way of a phone call, sms or a gift..

Some pple analyse and analyse til they paralyse.. Take Action Today.. Walk the Talk!!!

2005-09-30T15:29:00.000+08:00

Has it happened to you b4?? Seen a ger whom you had really strong feelings for juz go past you?? This chemistry or undeniable uncontrollable attraction for this person?? Juz their sheer presence alone is enough to make you go weak in the knees at the mere sight of them?? Well.. I guess you are not alone.. Cos most pple in general have faced this problem.. Especially in interacting with new pple... Frightened of strangers, this tingling phobia.. Why you may ask?? Cos since young we have been indoctrinated by our dear parents who try to shelter us from the storms outside and forbid us to speak to strangers.. Many pple are still livin in this comfort zone of theirs, unwilling to make a difference in their lives.. Face it guys, you always feel dat you've grown up already, truth is you have, but are you really behavin and tinkin like you should??

Take Action once again, and decide to make a difference in your own life.

Time is the answer to almost everything...

2005-09-23T08:41:00.000+08:00

Are you and your other half a match made in heaven? Time will tell..As in all relationships, the initial phase is usually filled wif passion before slowly slidin into a comfort zone of security as a couple come round to understand one another beta, building the trust and confidence in one another..

There is always the looming question wif regards to uni gers abandonin their army boyfren for the supposedly promised land, the promised land of beta promising guys..I have pretty much came to a conclusion for this "Phenomenon"..

First of all, the guy bein in army alreadi means he can only see her less..Not all guys are blessed wif the fortune of bein able to leave camp durin wkdays..Hence, who does the gf seek company in?? Uni guys and gers... but gers in general enjoy bein taken care of, when these uni guys start treatin them real well, its lulls them into a false image of falling for the guy and dismissin their army bf who appear to b unable to provide for them.. Dun get me wrong now, i'm not saying dat those uni guys r not gd, in fact they cld potentially b beta then the ger's existin bf.. But wat i'm tryin to say is dat the circumstances hv made it easier for them to win over the ger..

Second, over time, temptations come n go.. The onus of stayin faithful to yr partner becos of the commitment u hv made wif one another lies entirely on the individual..For all existing pple attached out there, listen up!!! When a new ger or guy in the block comes along, it usually gives rise to a feelin of passion, a feelin of love, similar to wat the ger felt when she fell for her bf initially too.. However, at dis pt, it is entirely up to the ger to decide if her current bf is gd enough or the potential candidate.. Cos the new guy might not treat her as well aft he reaches the same time period as the ger has been wif her bf. Eg. Ger wif 2yr bf..Camaraderie initially=90, aft 2 yrs=80. New guy wif ger intially=95, aft 2 yrs=60. Which one looks like the beta deal now?? The ger might choose the new guy only to regret later.. However all these things are purely speculative, but I'm juz explorin dis possiblity dats all.

Third... Which I tink contributes to the most breakups... Guys, as I've mentioned all along.. Confidence and posture is extremely attractive to gers!! Most guys suffer from a drop in self confidence and a rise in insecurity once they enlist.. Why?? Guys in army=virtually zero gers. Gers in uni=virtually all guys. Who's in a beta position in the relationship now?? haha.. The guys grows insecure, gets more possessive, loses his cool more often over guys who threaten to jeopardize his place in the ger's heart.. Girl grow frustrated at his neediness, clingyness, bad temper, lack of time to accompany her.. so on so forth.. Instead of havin to face all the complains and negative vibes in the army, she often hears from uni guys dat army is nothin,and are often spreadin all the postive images and brimming wif confidence.. If i'm a ger who wld i choose?? The choice is obvious. Advice to all army guys, u gotta buck up in the confidence area, cos gers r essentially more faithful than guys.. We have the upperhand alreadi..

Juz takin a minute to clarify the army issue.. Veri often when we look back at tough periods, we'll tink it wasnt dat bad.. But yet at dat time, things arent dat way.. As an officer of the SAF, Sword of Merit Holder=Top 10% of Cadet Graduate, i tink I'm in one of the best positions to cast judgement on dat.. During my cadet days, I can bet u trainin was tough.. Lack of sleep, heavy physical and mental stress, and hardly anytime spend out of camp.. Over a gruelling ten months. Now dat I look back at it, it seems ok.. But during the period, it was crazily tough i'm tellin u.. N i believe once i finish my service and enter uni, I'll probably end up like those uni donkeys who start claimin officer trainin wasnt dat tough.. N perhaps to a ger who's bf is in Officer Cadet School, who's bf keep complainin bout how tough it is, while I'm the one who seems non-chalent bout it.. This is wat's probably happenin now.. Get the illustration and picture I'm tryin to paint!!???

Trial and error or trial and succeed?

2005-09-22T08:13:00.000+08:00

Well sometimes,some things happen for a reason..Breakups are meant to give you cause for heartaches and grief..Of which I believe ultimately leads to delayed gratification..Its a test of one's character,to grow from it,learn from it and ultimately to step out of it,to be daring enough to demand that you deserve someone beta and to find someone beta!If your past relationship had brought you mostly heartaches, sadness and roller coaster emotions, it might have killed yr willingness and guts to engage into another relationship when Mr. Potentially Right comes along..

Personally, I feel dat a relationship is a trial and error event which we gotta go thru..Few pple are blessed with the fairy tale of finding their Mr/Mrs Right on the first try..Because like I said, it take practice to be sharper at finding yr other half and knowing exactly wat to expect from them..Its also to pick up skills and character so as to become a more desirable and attractive to yr future partner..Cooping yrself up and insisting in remainin single even when the right one comes along might not be dat gd an idea..Some pple ask.."How would I even know if he's the right one??" Ans: There is no answer to dat because unless you've tried it, you wouldnt know unless u cast yr judgement based on the initial encounters.. I'm not asking pple to juz jump into relationships here and there, but rather to be sure dat u r open to partners who offer a potentially high chance of filling up the missing gap in your life..

Nonetheless, there r pple who hv higher priorities then fallin in love at a certain time..But love is often like a butterfly..the more you chase it, the more it eludes you..When you least expect it, it comes to you..Even if u choose to put yr love life to a halt, if it comes it comes, you gotta learn to embrace it, appreciate it.. Trust me, humans are often seeking companionship and there is nothing more exihilarating then being able to share your joy, sorrows, emotions then yr other half..

Questions are the answers...

2005-09-07T13:16:00.000+08:00

Several runnin events have left me ponderin in their wake.. Things that have left me with many queries at a time of emotional chaos..
Questions... Do girls sometimes like playin hard to get?? So that the guy wld learn to appreciate them when he gets them?? Or some girls leavin the guy suitor dangling ard by not givin him a clear answer if she's not interested and instead pulls him ard by tuggin at his heart strings, giving him hope at crucial times??

Wat is this mysterious force that always keep gers tinkin bout their first love even aft they hv been thru a couple of relationships?? To some extent, some of these gers even get back togeda wif their first bf again, only to break up again aft the supposedly magical feelin din seem to b there anymore.. Well, I've spoke to a few ppl bout it.. N the conclusion i came up wif is dis.. Esp for girls, who are the more emotionally appreciative gender, when they first fall in love.. They are overwhlemed wif all the positive and happy emotions gushin into their body all at one go.. When they see their first bf, it reignites these wonderful emotions of bein in love again everytime they see him.. during their r/s phase.. N it becomes like a mental anchorage of happinesses when they see dat guy.. Cos everytime they see him, they feel happy.. the body recognizes this phenomenon n anchors association of happy feelings to b triggered everytime it sees the guy.. Hence, even aft the breakup, seein the guy again automatically triggers this emotion leavin some gers to be stuck wif the false feelin that they are still in love wif dat guy.. Only aft gettin back togeda again do they realise its not wat they expected or wat they wan.. Go read "Unlimited Power" by Anthony Robbins.

"Love is not automatic. It takes conscious practice and awareness, just like playing the piano or golf. However, you have ample opportunities to practice. Everyone you meet can be your practice session. ~Hari~

Body Language..

2005-09-06T21:51:00.000+08:00

Gers seems to hv a niche in readin body language..

I remember readin somewhere saying, there are 2 types of pple good at body language. First is women. Second is guys good wif women. I'm beginnin to tink its true. Cos body language is much more diff to lie then verbal language itself. Its like a lie detector. You can tell so much wat a ger is tinkin by observin keenly how she's behavin. And at times even she herself wld not know she's subtlely givin away clues bout her tots.

So I tink if u really wanna b gd wif women, to read wat they r tinkin, its a good idea to invest time n money to learn more bout it.. Go buy a book, listen to tapes and CDs or attend human behaviour seminars or sth.. It's goin to b veri worthwhile..

New Relevations..

2005-08-28T13:06:00.000+08:00

At Tower Records, I suddenly rmbr wat somebody once told me bout 4 types of couples.. 1. Ugly guy + Pretty Ger = Lucky Guy. 2. Ugly Ger + Pretty Boy = True Love. 3. Pretty Boy + Pretty Ger = Match Made in Heaven. 4 . Ugly Guy + Ugly Ger = No choice. Initially I felt it was nothing more than a joke..

Until I came across an interestin opinion online n I definitely agree.. I mean the thing is, y issit that some pple settle for partners who r not exactly the ones who makes their hearts race everytime they meet up, go crazy tinkin bout them the whole day about when the next msg or call is comin!!?? Some girls complain dat they've never had luck wif guys or bonding wif them or anything like dat.. But I tink the main cause is that these charming guys dun come by all the time.. N if they did, these women might have screwed it up n busted themselves by being a bitch, uninterestin or juz plain boring. Ending up, u juz chose to slide into a comfort zone by settling for the best option which u have at the moment.. Thus explaning bout my couple theory as above. N vice versa for guys.. Perhaps you've had an opportunity fly past u, difference is u din grab it with both hands.. Or u were ill prepared. Like I said earlier, BGR skills is a skill never taught in school.. Its up to us to research it, learn it, practice it before we get any good at it.

"Do not wait to strike till the iron is hot, but make it hot by striking."
~William B. Sprague~

Wed Nite aka Ladies Nite

2005-08-25T23:24:00.000+08:00

Phuture was unexpectedly less crowded then usual. Tink its mainly cos school has started for all the unis so most pple have decided to give clubbin a miss i guess..

Anyway, referrin back to my previous posts where girls r simply NOT attracted to guys who appear needy.. Guys.. Its a good idea to end an interaction wif a ger first. N not keep msgin n msgin her non-stop til she ends up bein the one who gets tired of u n say, "Hey, I gtg." Girls are always testin guys.. To qualify them basically.. SO watch out.. She could b pushin yr buttons without u knowin.. Eg. Theowing a tantrum or demandin sth unreasonable.. IF u realise u r givin in everytime.. Its time for a change.. U need to show dat u r in control.. Not the other way round..

Yet another Clubbin experience..

2005-08-20T19:46:00.000+08:00

Got tempted by Jon to go clubbin last nite.. Coupled by the fact that Ben juz returned me a couple of hundreds.. Goin wif jon n lionel is always fun.. Those guys sure know how to let loose and enjoy themselves everytime.. Not to talk bout bein extremely comforatble bein around girls aka pickin them up. Lester was supposed to join us, but ended up drunk b4 we even reached the club cos he went fer some 9 Div dinner wif jon n there was free flow beer.. The rest was history. Aft one whole nite of dancin, while me n lionel were takin cab back to my place to pick up his bag, he said, somehow dancin wif girls seem to be not as fun anymore. Dancin wif u guys more fun, cos u guys r more spontaneous.. Things is, it made me tink bout some guys complain bout not likin their GFs clubbin or future GFs clubbin.. But yet they spend most of their time in clubs. Point is, guys should be hangin out in places they like to attract their "type" of girls. Catch? Basically if u like girls who read, then hang out more in libraries or bookstores!! Not the shopping mall or club!

We gotta tink bout how to atract them rather than have the mentality that we gotta pursue them. Humans tendency n reaction is to run away from things that chase u! Haha, agree?

One of the worst things to do is insecurity n neediness.. Girls are rebuffed by guys who seem to be dependent on them physically or emotionally.. Work on developin yr self-confidence guys.. I can testify that this is sssssooooo true!! Cos i had experienced it. A few mths back, I had a bad acne outbreak.. N goodness, did t demolish my self-confidence to rock bottom for the first time in my life. N somehow, I juz felt I could no longer hold my own posture in the company of girls. N I could start seein the effects.. Key thing is, no matter how badly u need them, don't ever show it!! Girls are sensitive to detect if a guy is desperate or clingy!!

Last thing is, even if u looked like the ugliest thing on earth, never stop improvin yr physical appearance!! I'm not sayin lookin like Michael Jackson n sorts (Apologies Mike), but more of lookin more presentable n improvin yr wardrobe of clothes!!

I've been readin up on how to improve communication and workin on it.. N i juz realise there so much info available online, but it is actually up to us to harvest this vast amount of knowledge n puttin it to practice.. Essential thing is we gotta try, otherwise we'll never know if it works.

"Life is like a box of chocolate. You never know what you are gonna get." ~Forest Gump~

Personality Traits that Women are attracted to...

2005-08-12T14:59:00.000+08:00

Now that I'm Single & Available once again, its got me tinkin bout stuff I had never really tot bout in the past 2 yrs.. Like wat Joel said, I'm not sure if i know how to date or go after a ger anymore.. That struck me alot becos he has a veri gd point.. Its like once u r no longer flirtin much wif gers once u r attached, its like language, u r no longer as good as it.. U need to practice!

Same for guys who are comfortable bein wif gers or hv absolutely no problems approachin a ger dat has caught their attention. It all takes practice.. These are skills which we were never taught in skool!! Juz like financial intelligence.. Go check out SMC Website.. Anyway, back to wat I was sayin.. I found out there r certain personality traits which r generally popoular wif gers..

You know how pple always say"Wat characters r gers attracted to?" And the reply is always .. "Oh.. Be humorous.. Dat definitely works!" Yes, it works gentlemen.. Thing i question is.. Issit yr style?? Its more of a Sanguine (Go read "Personality plus", Florence Lithauer) thing if u ask me.. It somehow becomes unnatural on guys who r not by nature humorous n end up makin things worse when they try too hard..

Rather, there r actually a variety o ftraits which attract gers, but in more subtle ways.. Focus on bringin out yr style n strength which u were born wif.. AS follows...

1. Humour. Wat can I say? Key to the doorway in their hearts..
2. Intelligence n Creativity. Tink surprises, quality conversations..
3. Education. Only if its used in an interestin way that appeals to her.. Not Book worm style!!
4. Classy & Cultured. Magnetic Trait.. Esp when used subtlely..
5. Dominant. Girls like feelin.. Shows dat u care when u r a lil possessive.. Too liberal?? You r gonna be kicked out soon dude..
6. Thoughtful. A gift dat has significance or a deeper meanin.. Not buyin chocolates n stuffed toys all the time dumbo!!
7. Notice Significant Details. U tink dat sexy hairstyle or lavish outfit was an accident?? Tink again!! Girls love it when u show dat u notice their "effort" to doll up..
8. Unpredictable Vs Predictable. Former for success in flirting, latter for success in marriage.Simple.
9. Enthusiastic, Fun, Happy.This is like a muz have.. Work on it. Tink Positive.
10. Adventurous. Sexy beyond words.
11. Confident/Cocky. Juz a tinge of it will do. Be careful it doesnt develop into arrogance.
12. Expertise. Expert in an area dats appealin? Dun b afraid to flaunt it.
13. Attention. More of tellin them u were tinkin of them rather than hearin them complain.. Diff type.. Get it??
14. Disinterest. Indifference. Challenge. Girls too used to atttention will b attracted cos its like a challenge to them. Not used to it.. Be careful how u use it though..
15. Expert in Body Language. Its like a 95% girl thing n 5% Guy thing. Do yr research, practice it.
16. Sexual Mastery. Skilful Lovers. Nothin more.

-Partly Extracted from David.D-

Clear now?? Work on it. Do yr research on it if it bothers u enough.. Dis Guy Girl Communication thingy.. Skool dun teach these stuff.. Its all bout self learnin..

Mon Night.. Gotham Penthouse to not so happenin SMU Party at Black...

2005-08-10T13:11:00.000+08:00

Mon night went clubbin wif the usual jon lionel joe.. Dis added wif Keith, Jason, Lester, Ben, Kelly aka Lionel's Gf n XiaoPing aka Ben's GF. Shihui, Wei Zhong, Johan joined me bout 12am aft dat.. Bumped into Classmate Charmaine, Lotte n Lotte's Duplicate known as Maine. Interestin enough, the only time I always seem to bump into lotte the past few mths has been in clubs. Kinda disappointed wif her cos we nv seem to b able to meet up, cos she's "Busy" and always meet her in clubs. Which so not the way to catch up.. Kept me wonderin the whole time, haven we been pretty close before A levels?? Wif me helpin her wif her work or was it simply becos I had "Value" cos my grades wun dat bad.. N aft As it seems there ain no need to keep in contact anymore?? Perhaps not everyone values Frenship as much I guess..

Was readin dis book called "How to win friends and influence people" by Dale Carnegie.. Extremely good book which has alot of learnin values in it.. Teaches bout how to make pple like u.. There he highlights 6 principles.

Principle 1, Become genuinely interested in pple.. Many times the other reason y pple listen is hopin to wait for their turn so they can tell pple bout themselves n boost their own ego of feelin important. N wat goes in goes out bout wat pl say.. Guys... Girls hate dat!! Means u r hearin not listening!!!!

Principle 2, Smile.. Not crazily smilin the whole time idiot!! Which many guys sometimes over do n end up lookin like a clown..

Principle 3,Rmbr dat a person's name is to dat person the sweetest n most important sound in any language. Stop callin her honey or babe!! Actin all cosy wif somebody u r not close enough to dat level.. Try usin her name instead, devastatin effects..

Principle 4, Be a good listener encourage others to talk bout themselves. Tried it n its became a habit. Its really interestin how pple open up to u when u make an effort to seriously be concerned bout their well bein.

Principle 5, Talk in terms of the other person's interest. Tink bout it.

Principle 6, Make the other person feel important n b sincere bout it. Famous Case. tink pink cadillacs.. Ring a bell? Mary Kay, the famous business woman who imagines the sign "Make me feel the most important" on everyone.. Incredible hospitality..

All mentioned above is not to make u appear superficial or wat..
Rather i tink its a good idea to use them as guidin principle n educate yrself bout it n work towards it.. "We are what we repeatedly do, excellence then is not an act but a habit" -Aristotle-

Girls in clubs.. Wat r they tinkin??

2005-08-03T00:31:00.000+08:00

Juz like Guys... Girls have Egos too.. I know dat most girls out there who go clubbin tink dat they'll nv find a right guy or their Mr Perfect in clubs.. But nonetheless they still head their anyway becos they enjoy the attention showered upon them by the tons of guys in their club n gettin an Ego boost in the process.. GEttin free drinks n all n at the same time purposely teasin the guy victimisin him togeda wif all her ger frenz.. N yet often than not, appearin to b annoyed by guys who approach them, deemin them as "Bad" guys kinda stuff, yet secretly bein happy bout it, esp when she's wif a group of girls n the guy picked her!!! Girls out there, if u r displayin a behaviour as mentioned above, u might wanna reconsider yr actions ya..

Oh Yes, n while I was readin all these stuff by David Angelo, he mentioned sth real interestin.. The universal truth.. Women are far more interested in the way u make them feel rather than for your money, physical looks or fame..Haha, we guys r lucky arent we?? To all guys out there, u still stand a veri good chance wif hot gers even if u r NOT.. Yet girls have veri little to turn things around in their favour if they r solely lackin in the to looks department.. Well, dats the truth though guys hate to admit dis accusation by most girls... Work on it guys...

If YoU CouLd OnLy LoVe EnOuGh, YoU CouLd Be ThE MoSt PoWeRfUL PeRson In ThE WorLd . . .

2005-07-30T19:08:00.000+08:00

Be a Doer. Take charge and Take Action. There are alot of talkers in this world Ladies n Gentlemen.. It's often not enough to talk the talk. We've all gotta walk the talk.

" The chemist who can extract from his heart's elements compassion, respect, longing, patience, regret, surprise, and forgiveness and compound them into one can create that atom which is called love." - Kahlil Gibran -

Well, to all guys out there, ever wondered y u've never managed to get to know or date hot babes who make yr heart flutter when they past u by on the streets n yet u r often secretly jealous of guys who seem to b naturals in dis field??? Dun worry, u r not alone.. Dis is a very apparent syndrome dat is affectin almost every guy out there.. The reason is really simple ya know.. Its the fear of failure n rejection dat often undermines out ability to perform certain tasks..Its all bout how many "no's" can u take? How many times have u wanted to go and talk to someone u found attractive, then decided not to go up becos u din wanna b rejected?? Tink bout how crazy dat is. Tink bout how u r creatin limits simply becos u fear dat little 2 letter word?? Seriously, the word in itself is powerless.. There r no real successes without rejection ...The more rejection u get, the beta u become, the more u learn, the closer u r to yr outcome.If u can handle rejection, u'll learn everything u wan.. These are really useful teachings dat I had learned from readin the book called "Unlimited Power" by Anthony Robbins.

Good Luck with wat u have to do, need to do n wan to do.. Go out there today n make yr day a beta one, a more beautiful one. Take control. Be a doer. Walk the talk n success awaits u..

My Dream Car . . .

2005-07-30T15:04:00.000+08:00

Oh Yes.. N who can forget this BMW Convertible..

2005-07-30T00:02:00.000+08:00

Sunset I wanna watch with the Love of my Life . . .

Clubbin wif the Clubbin dudes...

2005-07-29T10:04:00.000+08:00

Went to Melvin's party yest at dis place called home in boat quay.. supposed to be some lesbian pub or sth.. but of cos the crowd there yest ain the usual ppl... The general thinkin me lionel joe n jon were tinkin there'll probably b no gers or sth cos its ladies nite in lots of places n yet they r still charegin pple cover charge.. Well, it wasnt too bad.. Free flow 11-12, we drank n drank then headed to black aft dat but it was full, so we went back to Home again.. The dance floor was practically empty until 4 of us started dancin wif Sharann on the dance floor then somehow, magically everybody started dancin.. Dance floor was full aft 10mins or sth.. So 4 of us were like tinkin we kinda saved the party.. Otherwise it was real freakin sad man.. Haha

N I got to know several interestin characters there, frenz of lionel jon n joe... I often wonder y some gers complain bout guys takin advantage of them in clubs but yet they still choose to club usin the "Cos I like to dance" excuse.. N when they r there, they move bout like zombies or sth.. haha, n if guys were to say "Cos I like to dance" its bein dismissed as an excuse.. Like the ultimate reason y we even club is cos we wanna take advantage of them or sth.. Dat kinda tinkin is so pathetic man.. Yes, of cos diff pple club wif diff agendas, but I muz say, clubbin wif Joe, Lionel n Jon is like a guarantee of sure fun or sth!! You guys Rock! Yest was real fun, made we reminiscent bout the good old days when we used to club every other wk or sth until we commissined n all when separate ways, hardly bein able to conjure the time to club at all.. Like Jon said, missed you guys... Tink it was all mutual man dude.. *Not soundin gay i hope*

Had fun once again!!

2005-07-27T06:30:00.000+08:00

Met up wif Si Jin yest aft she finished work at Bossini.. Supposed to go Han's Cafe for lunch, only to realise it was under renovation aft also reachin there.. Haha, ended up at subway.. Stayed there talkin for bout 3 hrs or so.. ALthoug hwe used to hardly talk at all, somehow we still managed to engage in a conversation as if we have known each other for a really long time.. Guess, sometimes dis is wat pple mean by bein on the same frequency ba.. Juz like how she mentioned dat though she had been in the same clique n known "ostrich" for a pretty long time, but somehow they juz cant click, talkin to her was more of a chore, energy drainin.. Which is y i tink its not bout how long u've known dat person to b comfortable wif one another, but more of "chemistry" like wat she said...

Its really wonderful to engage in a conversation wif somebody whom u dun even have to put in effort to tink of special topics to say.. Ever had dat happened to u b4? Pretty enjoyable ain it??
Yet I believe ther muz have been many times whereby pple r trapped in coversations which r senseless, meaningless and yet faced wif the need to continue appearin as if u enjoy the conversation simply because the occasion requires it or because of some reason.. And havin dat drainin feeling aft endin the conversation, as if u've mentally juz finished fightin a war eh?? Another unique human behaviou once again...

NDP Full Dress Rehearsals

2005-07-25T06:36:00.000+08:00

Yesterday was really cool.. Managed to get hold of 2 tickets to the NDP full dress rehearsals at Padang.. Went wif Sec skool gd fren Shihui.. She's kinda bimbo cos she's never been to one in her whole life.. So the array of fireworks at the end of the show was pretty much a real treat to both of us, esp her of cos!
The red lions were really fantastic, cos dis is the first time i've actually seen them up close like 30m or sth.. Those daredevils gave you the heart throb feelin like they were goin to land on u at alarmin speeds before visibly slowin down when they appear be to almost crashin into the cold, hard slippery ground.. Thumbs up! Way beat than seei nthem on TV where they always look so boring.. Haha, indeed diff perspectives in diff environments gives diff opinions...
Aft the show, bumped into Angel n Co.. Rather more of juz Angel n Terence.. Haha, those 2 later joined us at the arcade playin BishiBashi n MJ.. Kinda fun considerin how impromptu it was.. had a lovely day yest..

Happily in Melbourne a month ago!

2005-07-24T01:23:00.000+08:00

Mackenzie Falls, Melbourne

Yeah, That's me.. Enjoying myself over in Australia.. Gosh was it cold...

Ever Wondered Why??

2005-07-23T23:36:00.000+08:00

It has always been universally mind blogglin about the relationship and attraction between guys n girls. The unexplained behaviour when they interact with one another and the complications that usually result. The best of course, lies in the very fact that even the parties involved cant explain why they are experiencin such an emotional thinkin or display.

Take for example.. "TO ALL GUYS OUT THERE!!!" Ever wondered why "Nan Ren bu huai, nu ren bu ai?" (Bad guys are loved by girls) Like how that real nice n sweet girl whom u have been treatin so nicely doesnt reciprocate her love but instead continues fallin head over heels for that jerk who treats her real bad? Or have u ever treated this girl whom u really really liked, really really nice n gentlemanly, and in the end she says she simply treats you as a very gd fren when u declare your feelings to her?

Here's the shocking fact!!! Being NICE simply doesnt work!!! In most cases, this hold true. Well, perhaps by now u have already figured that out, but there are many guys out there sufferin from this sinister behaviour by girls and are still tryin to fight their inner emotions, at the same time tryin to get a grasp about understanding why girls are like dat.

Ever wondered why those books that you've been readin bout helpin u romance a girl, how to get the girl of your dreams, how to make her fall deeper in love for you hardly ever works?? Well, these professors and writers who wrote these books are mostly writing from the point of view assuming that you already have the girl you love by your side already!! What about those who are single out there? These books don't teach you how to get a girl in the first place!! (Minus a few cheesy pick-up lines that don't work anyway)

Now, have you ever wondered why....

Hackers undermining Internet Security??

2005-07-22T05:19:00.000+08:00

Ok, the bloggers are up in the news again today.. For the right or wrong reason? I'm not so sure bout it.. Popular blogger Xiaxue's blog has apparently been defaced by some hackers who broke into her website.. For malicious reasons or just pure jealousy? Pretty sure nobody has an idea bout dat for now..

Nonetheless, its brings us tothe pt with regards to success.. I remember someone once mentioned,"Success attracts criticism." Well, of course, dis time round, it got the wrong attraction!As i said earlier, such acts are definitely not goin to deter bloggers from stoppin wat they enjoy most, but simply to just proceed wif more caution like backin up their own blogs n stuff..

We all treasure things dear to us, n buyin insurance is a good investment rite? Haha,talkin bout insurance, some pple still haven fully understood theimportance of it, n only start regrettin when things happen.. "Its never goin to happen to me" mentality is usually the case until tragedy hits when pple start havin the "If only I did.." mentality... Interestin eh?

The very reason why I even bother to post in the first place...

2005-07-22T00:40:00.000+08:00

Ok, its really very simple.. Everyone does it, so I have to do it... NOOO!! Now dats the Singaporean mentality really ain it?? Well, I'm doin it simply becos I wan to n perhaps some time in future there can be things that I can share wif pple who show interest in readin pple's blogs.. Its really interestin readin how some pple lead their lives, wat they tink, n bein able to fully express most of wat they really feel bout certain issues which are fond to the heart..

Considerin all the hype surroundin bloggin nowadays, its really a classy show of how popular bloggin has grown to become eversince it has been started 5 yrs back.. Why? Some pple ask, it has even become a way of life for some pple, i tink one of the main reason contributin to such a phenomenon is dat its one of the avenues ppl have left to express their emotions like ventin their anger or "bitchin" bout frustratin stuff goin on in their life or simply to show their overwhelmin joy bout euphoric stuff of cos! Til then, I strongly believe bloggin is goin to be around fer a really long long time ladies n gentlemen...

New Post

2005-07-22T00:32:00.000+08:00

New Post, first post.. Singaporean Life? Love it!