Time is the answer to almost everything...
Are you and your other half a match made in heaven? Time will tell..As in all relationships, the initial phase is usually filled wif passion before slowly slidin into a comfort zone of security as a couple come round to understand one another beta, building the trust and confidence in one another..
There is always the looming question wif regards to uni gers abandonin their army boyfren for the supposedly promised land, the promised land of beta promising guys..I have pretty much came to a conclusion for this "Phenomenon"..
First of all, the guy bein in army alreadi means he can only see her less..Not all guys are blessed wif the fortune of bein able to leave camp durin wkdays..Hence, who does the gf seek company in?? Uni guys and gers... but gers in general enjoy bein taken care of, when these uni guys start treatin them real well, its lulls them into a false image of falling for the guy and dismissin their army bf who appear to b unable to provide for them.. Dun get me wrong now, i'm not saying dat those uni guys r not gd, in fact they cld potentially b beta then the ger's existin bf.. But wat i'm tryin to say is dat the circumstances hv made it easier for them to win over the ger..
Second, over time, temptations come n go.. The onus of stayin faithful to yr partner becos of the commitment u hv made wif one another lies entirely on the individual..For all existing pple attached out there, listen up!!! When a new ger or guy in the block comes along, it usually gives rise to a feelin of passion, a feelin of love, similar to wat the ger felt when she fell for her bf initially too.. However, at dis pt, it is entirely up to the ger to decide if her current bf is gd enough or the potential candidate.. Cos the new guy might not treat her as well aft he reaches the same time period as the ger has been wif her bf. Eg. Ger wif 2yr bf..Camaraderie initially=90, aft 2 yrs=80. New guy wif ger intially=95, aft 2 yrs=60. Which one looks like the beta deal now?? The ger might choose the new guy only to regret later.. However all these things are purely speculative, but I'm juz explorin dis possiblity dats all.
Third... Which I tink contributes to the most breakups... Guys, as I've mentioned all along.. Confidence and posture is extremely attractive to gers!! Most guys suffer from a drop in self confidence and a rise in insecurity once they enlist.. Why?? Guys in army=virtually zero gers. Gers in uni=virtually all guys. Who's in a beta position in the relationship now?? haha.. The guys grows insecure, gets more possessive, loses his cool more often over guys who threaten to jeopardize his place in the ger's heart.. Girl grow frustrated at his neediness, clingyness, bad temper, lack of time to accompany her.. so on so forth.. Instead of havin to face all the complains and negative vibes in the army, she often hears from uni guys dat army is nothin,and are often spreadin all the postive images and brimming wif confidence.. If i'm a ger who wld i choose?? The choice is obvious. Advice to all army guys, u gotta buck up in the confidence area, cos gers r essentially more faithful than guys.. We have the upperhand alreadi..
Juz takin a minute to clarify the army issue.. Veri often when we look back at tough periods, we'll tink it wasnt dat bad.. But yet at dat time, things arent dat way.. As an officer of the SAF, Sword of Merit Holder=Top 10% of Cadet Graduate, i tink I'm in one of the best positions to cast judgement on dat.. During my cadet days, I can bet u trainin was tough.. Lack of sleep, heavy physical and mental stress, and hardly anytime spend out of camp.. Over a gruelling ten months. Now dat I look back at it, it seems ok.. But during the period, it was crazily tough i'm tellin u.. N i believe once i finish my service and enter uni, I'll probably end up like those uni donkeys who start claimin officer trainin wasnt dat tough.. N perhaps to a ger who's bf is in Officer Cadet School, who's bf keep complainin bout how tough it is, while I'm the one who seems non-chalent bout it.. This is wat's probably happenin now.. Get the illustration and picture I'm tryin to paint!!???
There is always the looming question wif regards to uni gers abandonin their army boyfren for the supposedly promised land, the promised land of beta promising guys..I have pretty much came to a conclusion for this "Phenomenon"..
First of all, the guy bein in army alreadi means he can only see her less..Not all guys are blessed wif the fortune of bein able to leave camp durin wkdays..Hence, who does the gf seek company in?? Uni guys and gers... but gers in general enjoy bein taken care of, when these uni guys start treatin them real well, its lulls them into a false image of falling for the guy and dismissin their army bf who appear to b unable to provide for them.. Dun get me wrong now, i'm not saying dat those uni guys r not gd, in fact they cld potentially b beta then the ger's existin bf.. But wat i'm tryin to say is dat the circumstances hv made it easier for them to win over the ger..
Second, over time, temptations come n go.. The onus of stayin faithful to yr partner becos of the commitment u hv made wif one another lies entirely on the individual..For all existing pple attached out there, listen up!!! When a new ger or guy in the block comes along, it usually gives rise to a feelin of passion, a feelin of love, similar to wat the ger felt when she fell for her bf initially too.. However, at dis pt, it is entirely up to the ger to decide if her current bf is gd enough or the potential candidate.. Cos the new guy might not treat her as well aft he reaches the same time period as the ger has been wif her bf. Eg. Ger wif 2yr bf..Camaraderie initially=90, aft 2 yrs=80. New guy wif ger intially=95, aft 2 yrs=60. Which one looks like the beta deal now?? The ger might choose the new guy only to regret later.. However all these things are purely speculative, but I'm juz explorin dis possiblity dats all.
Third... Which I tink contributes to the most breakups... Guys, as I've mentioned all along.. Confidence and posture is extremely attractive to gers!! Most guys suffer from a drop in self confidence and a rise in insecurity once they enlist.. Why?? Guys in army=virtually zero gers. Gers in uni=virtually all guys. Who's in a beta position in the relationship now?? haha.. The guys grows insecure, gets more possessive, loses his cool more often over guys who threaten to jeopardize his place in the ger's heart.. Girl grow frustrated at his neediness, clingyness, bad temper, lack of time to accompany her.. so on so forth.. Instead of havin to face all the complains and negative vibes in the army, she often hears from uni guys dat army is nothin,and are often spreadin all the postive images and brimming wif confidence.. If i'm a ger who wld i choose?? The choice is obvious. Advice to all army guys, u gotta buck up in the confidence area, cos gers r essentially more faithful than guys.. We have the upperhand alreadi..
Juz takin a minute to clarify the army issue.. Veri often when we look back at tough periods, we'll tink it wasnt dat bad.. But yet at dat time, things arent dat way.. As an officer of the SAF, Sword of Merit Holder=Top 10% of Cadet Graduate, i tink I'm in one of the best positions to cast judgement on dat.. During my cadet days, I can bet u trainin was tough.. Lack of sleep, heavy physical and mental stress, and hardly anytime spend out of camp.. Over a gruelling ten months. Now dat I look back at it, it seems ok.. But during the period, it was crazily tough i'm tellin u.. N i believe once i finish my service and enter uni, I'll probably end up like those uni donkeys who start claimin officer trainin wasnt dat tough.. N perhaps to a ger who's bf is in Officer Cadet School, who's bf keep complainin bout how tough it is, while I'm the one who seems non-chalent bout it.. This is wat's probably happenin now.. Get the illustration and picture I'm tryin to paint!!???
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