Is it the end of the world for you if you fail to find the love of your life in University??
Many guys cant wait to finish their service to start the next phase of their life. University life. The supposedly heaven of highly in demand singles all in search for a partner.. So all that they do the whole time in NS is just to await this promised "land" where they will finally find the love of their life. Therefore, there have been many cases of guys who portray themselves as desperados, hungry wolves just waiting to move in for the kill. Earning the reputation of being Girlfriend stealers, the guy who tries too hard, loser who's just too desperate etc.
Well, I cant exactly blame them becos this seems to be the general belief floating around. When the guys loses his ger while in NS, what do pple say? "Dun worry, there's plenty of gers to choose from once you are in university." When the guy is single in NS and asks pple around why issit that they cant seem to meet any new gers, what do pple say? "Dun worry, there's plenty of gers to choose from once you are in university."
When he's too busy with his NS and doesnt have time to socialise or to start looking for a love partner, what does he convince himself with? "Dun worry, there's plenty of gers to choose from once you are in university."
After 2 years of self indoctrination and extensive influence by those around them, a mental anchorage is established with the belief that UNIVERSITY = FINDING A LOVE PARTNER. Personally, I feel there's no denyin that University life is extremely favourable and conducive for people to start the search for a suitable partner. Many actiivies and events are also tuned towards providing more opportunities for the opposite genders to interact and mix around. I would not go to the extent of saying that you would not be able to find your lifetime partner if you cant find one in the university in one way or another, eg. not studying in university or just focusing on your studies in university. Just that, in the university phase, there is indeed a huge pool of desirable girls/guys to choose from, thus increasing yuor chances of finding a really fantastic partner for yourself.
I'm alarmed that some pple in university are not showing much interest in finding their lifetime partner, binded by the misconception that they will similarly be able to find "THE ONE" in their workplace after graduation even if they cant seem to meet anybody suitable in university. Well, don't they realise that by then, the chances would have greatly diminished due to the fact that the more desirable ones have been taken up or their lack of exposure in meeting more people. Yes, it depends on the nature of their jobs, but I'm just saying in general.
University is not just about getting a degree to open up doors to highly paid jobs, it is also about learning and honing your socialising skills. Don't fret if you have not been successful in the love department, but don't give up. Never give up. Because life is more than just about studying hard and working hard.
It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed.
~Theodore Roosevelt~
Well, I cant exactly blame them becos this seems to be the general belief floating around. When the guys loses his ger while in NS, what do pple say? "Dun worry, there's plenty of gers to choose from once you are in university." When the guy is single in NS and asks pple around why issit that they cant seem to meet any new gers, what do pple say? "Dun worry, there's plenty of gers to choose from once you are in university."
When he's too busy with his NS and doesnt have time to socialise or to start looking for a love partner, what does he convince himself with? "Dun worry, there's plenty of gers to choose from once you are in university."
After 2 years of self indoctrination and extensive influence by those around them, a mental anchorage is established with the belief that UNIVERSITY = FINDING A LOVE PARTNER. Personally, I feel there's no denyin that University life is extremely favourable and conducive for people to start the search for a suitable partner. Many actiivies and events are also tuned towards providing more opportunities for the opposite genders to interact and mix around. I would not go to the extent of saying that you would not be able to find your lifetime partner if you cant find one in the university in one way or another, eg. not studying in university or just focusing on your studies in university. Just that, in the university phase, there is indeed a huge pool of desirable girls/guys to choose from, thus increasing yuor chances of finding a really fantastic partner for yourself.
I'm alarmed that some pple in university are not showing much interest in finding their lifetime partner, binded by the misconception that they will similarly be able to find "THE ONE" in their workplace after graduation even if they cant seem to meet anybody suitable in university. Well, don't they realise that by then, the chances would have greatly diminished due to the fact that the more desirable ones have been taken up or their lack of exposure in meeting more people. Yes, it depends on the nature of their jobs, but I'm just saying in general.
University is not just about getting a degree to open up doors to highly paid jobs, it is also about learning and honing your socialising skills. Don't fret if you have not been successful in the love department, but don't give up. Never give up. Because life is more than just about studying hard and working hard.
It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed.
~Theodore Roosevelt~
posted by Edmund at 3:02 PM
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