Life after Breakups? Life after a sexually fuelled relationship??
So how does it go? How does your life go after a breakup?? I remember speaking to a fren about his relationship. He was like a jailbird, having to go back to his gf's home everyday, hardly being able to go out with his frenz, simply because she wants him to accompany him. He shifted to her place because she wanted him by her side. What about your parents i asked? Is there anything wrong going on at home? "No", he said. Its only because he thinks his gf needs him more.
Well, personally I cant embrace this idea because I'm an extremely family orientated person, nonetheless, I can accept his reason and his belief. Question is, why is he going to such extremes, or rather tolerating such behaviour? "I'm Afraid", he said. Afraid of what? "Losing her". What? This is the god knows how many times I've heard people go to extreme measures just so they can keep the relationship going. Not healthy, definitely a NO NO. To him, he's afraid to lose her because he had experienced many bad relationships before this, yet is this one worth keeping? I mumbled to myself.
Not to say the least, in this generation where premarital sex is widely rampant, he is also unwillingly to give it up. "Words of Apparent Wisdom", many people say, "The sex is good", "The sex was good","It was good while it lasted","Sex was probably what kept things going","I enjoyed the sex" so on so forth.
A big thing to ponder about is, if sex is the thing that is keeping the relationship together, its utterly disappointing. Meaningless to carry on. Yet, YEETTTT I've seen ssssooooooo many countless cases, girls especially, who give up their bodies, giving in to their bf's sexual demands, hoping to keep him, or in worst cases, to win him back. All else failing, what are you going to do? I mean, are you someone who has been engaging in lots of sex with your partner in each relationship you get yourself into?? Is that the idea of commitment,to give yourself the excuse or to convince yourself that it gives you a valid excuse to have sex? I'm not saying its a bad idea or a good one either, point is, if a relationship is sex driven, chances are its not going to last in the long run. Logically, we know we have to give up, yet many of us, find it hard to let go. Its frustrating to see couples like that, but we all know its easy to say, difficult to do..Think about the direction your current relationship is going, and perhaps go through a revision with your partner to guide your relationship in the right direction if you think you are not comfortable with the present one. For the singles, hopefully you have a better idea of what to expect or what to do when you do find somebody suitable.
The question in life is not whether you get knocked down. You will. The question is, are you ready to get back up... And fight for what you believe in? ~Dan Quayle~
Well, personally I cant embrace this idea because I'm an extremely family orientated person, nonetheless, I can accept his reason and his belief. Question is, why is he going to such extremes, or rather tolerating such behaviour? "I'm Afraid", he said. Afraid of what? "Losing her". What? This is the god knows how many times I've heard people go to extreme measures just so they can keep the relationship going. Not healthy, definitely a NO NO. To him, he's afraid to lose her because he had experienced many bad relationships before this, yet is this one worth keeping? I mumbled to myself.
Not to say the least, in this generation where premarital sex is widely rampant, he is also unwillingly to give it up. "Words of Apparent Wisdom", many people say, "The sex is good", "The sex was good","It was good while it lasted","Sex was probably what kept things going","I enjoyed the sex" so on so forth.
A big thing to ponder about is, if sex is the thing that is keeping the relationship together, its utterly disappointing. Meaningless to carry on. Yet, YEETTTT I've seen ssssooooooo many countless cases, girls especially, who give up their bodies, giving in to their bf's sexual demands, hoping to keep him, or in worst cases, to win him back. All else failing, what are you going to do? I mean, are you someone who has been engaging in lots of sex with your partner in each relationship you get yourself into?? Is that the idea of commitment,to give yourself the excuse or to convince yourself that it gives you a valid excuse to have sex? I'm not saying its a bad idea or a good one either, point is, if a relationship is sex driven, chances are its not going to last in the long run. Logically, we know we have to give up, yet many of us, find it hard to let go. Its frustrating to see couples like that, but we all know its easy to say, difficult to do..Think about the direction your current relationship is going, and perhaps go through a revision with your partner to guide your relationship in the right direction if you think you are not comfortable with the present one. For the singles, hopefully you have a better idea of what to expect or what to do when you do find somebody suitable.
The question in life is not whether you get knocked down. You will. The question is, are you ready to get back up... And fight for what you believe in? ~Dan Quayle~
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