How often is enough, really?
Many couples can't stand being away from one another for more than a day, can't stand not hearing the other party's voice for more than an hour. Yet there are some who don't think twice about seeing one another just once a month or sending an sms just once a week..How often is enough, really?
There ain really any hard and fast rule that we have to live by, because ultimately it depends on the close proximity between both parties, and the expectations they carry with them when in the relationship. Some couples carry the opinion that there is no need to see each other so often, or call each other so often, while there are some who cant see each other enough even though they meet everyday.
Truth behold, if the relationship reaches a point where its just a random phone call or meeting because both of you happen to be free, where is the commitment really? What's more, doesnt that sound like what you would do with any friend? What difference does it really make? Most couples usually start off passionate and fiery, which easily motivates them to have the desire to see and hear their other half. So when the relationship stops getting passionate after a while, of which it is bound to happen, what do we do next? Stop calling, meet less? Or because of a commitment to maintain the relationship, both parties make a conscious effort to make time for one another. I'm not calling upon people to see each other everyday or call one another, but rather, seek a frequency which you feel is justifiable and helps the relationship grow. Guys, stop being less humourous from the time when you tried humouring your girl when you two first met..Girls, stop being less appreciate from the time when he first opened the door for you when you two first met..
Believe it or not, every couple would go through 3 stages + 1 optional stage in their relationship.
The passionate stage, where two cant keep your hands off one another, can't stop seeing one another, can't stop thinking of one another.
The storming stage, where the passion dies off and you start getting used to the usual routine of hanging out with him, hearing his voice and yes, taking him for granted..Same for the guys, it works both ways. Then it reaches a point when both of you decided whether to continue this mundane pattern, or to put in a conscious effort to spruce it up.
The stability stage, where the two of you decide to give more weight to the relationship and make it work for the long term. Jumping from relationships to relationships could be thrilling intitally, but after a while, we develop a stone heart and start losing faith in relationships. Which is why reaching the stability stage is of utmost importance. That is if you decide that in the long run, you do intend to get married and settle down.
Of course, the final optional stage is the break up stage. At any point in time if you think the relationship is not gonna work, and having put in enough effort to try and make it work, drop it. Quit wasting your time, the other party's time and move on. Its not anyone's fault, but the pieces probably don't fit.
How often to communicate, how often you choose to see your other half, really depends on you. What you want from the relationship..If you still cant bear not to see your other half almost everyday more than a year from your relationship? Good on you. If its only been a month and you are starting to tire out, I suggest that you either try to reignite the fire within the both of you, or quit wasting time..
"The greatest problem in communication is the illusion that it has been accomplished."
~George Bernard Shaw~
There ain really any hard and fast rule that we have to live by, because ultimately it depends on the close proximity between both parties, and the expectations they carry with them when in the relationship. Some couples carry the opinion that there is no need to see each other so often, or call each other so often, while there are some who cant see each other enough even though they meet everyday.
Truth behold, if the relationship reaches a point where its just a random phone call or meeting because both of you happen to be free, where is the commitment really? What's more, doesnt that sound like what you would do with any friend? What difference does it really make? Most couples usually start off passionate and fiery, which easily motivates them to have the desire to see and hear their other half. So when the relationship stops getting passionate after a while, of which it is bound to happen, what do we do next? Stop calling, meet less? Or because of a commitment to maintain the relationship, both parties make a conscious effort to make time for one another. I'm not calling upon people to see each other everyday or call one another, but rather, seek a frequency which you feel is justifiable and helps the relationship grow. Guys, stop being less humourous from the time when you tried humouring your girl when you two first met..Girls, stop being less appreciate from the time when he first opened the door for you when you two first met..
Believe it or not, every couple would go through 3 stages + 1 optional stage in their relationship.
The passionate stage, where two cant keep your hands off one another, can't stop seeing one another, can't stop thinking of one another.
The storming stage, where the passion dies off and you start getting used to the usual routine of hanging out with him, hearing his voice and yes, taking him for granted..Same for the guys, it works both ways. Then it reaches a point when both of you decided whether to continue this mundane pattern, or to put in a conscious effort to spruce it up.
The stability stage, where the two of you decide to give more weight to the relationship and make it work for the long term. Jumping from relationships to relationships could be thrilling intitally, but after a while, we develop a stone heart and start losing faith in relationships. Which is why reaching the stability stage is of utmost importance. That is if you decide that in the long run, you do intend to get married and settle down.
Of course, the final optional stage is the break up stage. At any point in time if you think the relationship is not gonna work, and having put in enough effort to try and make it work, drop it. Quit wasting your time, the other party's time and move on. Its not anyone's fault, but the pieces probably don't fit.
How often to communicate, how often you choose to see your other half, really depends on you. What you want from the relationship..If you still cant bear not to see your other half almost everyday more than a year from your relationship? Good on you. If its only been a month and you are starting to tire out, I suggest that you either try to reignite the fire within the both of you, or quit wasting time..
"The greatest problem in communication is the illusion that it has been accomplished."
~George Bernard Shaw~
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