Handphone, payphone or house phone?

Is it true that couples never run out of things to say? Chit chatting on the phone every night talking about everything under the sun,and even the most trivial things? To find out more about our partner's behaviour and mentality? Or is it simply because her voice is music to our ears? Read a magazine today about daily communications strengthening relationships. Especially long term ones. Most relationships start off strong and passionate fuelled by the daily phone calls couples have with one another although they see each other everyday. The irony is that after a period of time, at a point when daily phone calls are at its most important, couples tend to overlook it as they place less emphasis on spending time on the phone, preferring to spend time on other activities instead, reassuring themselves with the “Excuse” that there isn’t much to talk about on the phone anyway. I ain exactly sure how phone calls at the later stage of a relationship can help bond a couple closer together, but I figure there are several possibilities on this.

First, a relationship isn’t something like doing all the nice stuff for your other half, think that you’ve scored enough brownie points, then take a breather and stop. Of which usually once you decide to take a breather, you don’t restart after that. Haha. Its like pouring water into a cup with a small hole at the bottom, the water keeps leaking out with time. You wouldn’t want to wait til its dry before you top it up. Idea is to keep filling the cup with water and keep the water level high, akin to scoring brownie points with your other half. Get the gist? So daily phone calls I guess effectively helps to strengthen the relationship each day, little by little daily.

Next up, when there are daily updates on your other half’s lifestyle and activities, it helps that you can share the joy and problems almost immediately and both of you can ride through the storm together. With each passing obstacle, you grow stronger. Especially when you know everything about the ongoings of your other half, it shows that you care and you are concerned. Imagine someone else having to tell you that your other half intends to switch schools with you not having the slightest idea? That would be disastrous don’t you think? Such a major decision and yet you are not in the loop shows a lot..

So daily phone calls or not? I guess the main idea is that as long as a couple is constantly in close contact with one another, it should do the trick. The choice is yours.

"The problem with communication ... is the illusion that it has been accomplished." ~George Bernard Shaw~