I don't feel important anymore..
It's obvious. Everyone, anyone living for a purpose wants to feel important. Even if it is to a single person, it makes a world of difference. What's more if that person means the world to you, feeling important to that person is probably all that matters. If you ever have your other half complaining or voicing out their concerns that they don't feel as important anymore, perhaps its time to do a little more.
Most of us generally like to dismiss our other halfs as trying to inch their demands a tat too much, but there has always been a tendency for humans to start taking things for granted. Simple gestures of opening the door for your other half, that little surprise just to put a smile on his or her face, going the extra mile to make them comfortable when meeting your friends for the first time etc. The moment you slide into the comfort zone where you think the special things they do for you, is more of your entitlement rather than your privileges, you've probably embarked onto the forbidden path.
Truth is, it is human nature to reciprocate. While everyone likes to be on the receiving end, my advice is, "Give and you shall receive." That's how you can make the relationship work out that little bit better by having a two way-traffic. Point to note, human beings crave real feedback. If you have to wait til she asks, "Do you miss me? Am I important to you? How much?". Whatever answer you give would receive a counter reply, "Bluff!" or "I don't believe you." or "No sincerity. You have to wait til I ask." Bottomline is, even if we know we are important, we sometimes need that extra input from people to give us assurance. So, next time round you appreciate something someone or your other half has done for you, remember, show it. Make people feel important. All the time.
"No matter how busy you are, you must take time to make the other person feel important." ~Mary Kay Ash~
Most of us generally like to dismiss our other halfs as trying to inch their demands a tat too much, but there has always been a tendency for humans to start taking things for granted. Simple gestures of opening the door for your other half, that little surprise just to put a smile on his or her face, going the extra mile to make them comfortable when meeting your friends for the first time etc. The moment you slide into the comfort zone where you think the special things they do for you, is more of your entitlement rather than your privileges, you've probably embarked onto the forbidden path.
Truth is, it is human nature to reciprocate. While everyone likes to be on the receiving end, my advice is, "Give and you shall receive." That's how you can make the relationship work out that little bit better by having a two way-traffic. Point to note, human beings crave real feedback. If you have to wait til she asks, "Do you miss me? Am I important to you? How much?". Whatever answer you give would receive a counter reply, "Bluff!" or "I don't believe you." or "No sincerity. You have to wait til I ask." Bottomline is, even if we know we are important, we sometimes need that extra input from people to give us assurance. So, next time round you appreciate something someone or your other half has done for you, remember, show it. Make people feel important. All the time.
"No matter how busy you are, you must take time to make the other person feel important." ~Mary Kay Ash~
posted by Edmund at 12:10 PM
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