Is HE the one for you??

I believe many people have encountered instances when u fall in love wif a counterpart and it apppears you are the only one who seems to see the positives in the person while everyone else rejects him or allowing you to even harbouring the idea of being wif the person. General reaction?? Persistence in continuing what you tink you want before usually giving up ultimately. Cos usually the ger would say to herself, "Well, at the end of the day, its me who would be wif him, not anyone else, so why should I care wat other pple tink?" This self-convincing effort normally does not last beyond the time when the ger grows weary and tired of resisting and gives in to all the relentless verbal attacks by those around her and choose to give up.

I personally believe all these things happening can only boil down to attitude. Let's face it, beyond the possiblity of you being plainly blinded by love failing to see all the possible flaws in the person and the likelihood of the relationship taking a freefall in the near future, you can only if you tink u can. Success in love is a state of mind. If you want success in love, start thinking that you will be successful in love. We can always choose to be optimistic about a particular relationship or to be pessimistic. "The optimist is right, so is the pessimistic." How positive an image a person portrays sometimes boils down to how other people choose to look at him in the first place. For eg. Some parents don't even know their kid's counterpart and have already started objecting without even getting to know him in the first place!! Plain ignorance or unreasonable? Both. How can they ever expect their kids to respect such a behaviour especially coming from people whom have grown to become role models in the eyes of their offsprings? Point is, they have chosen to see all the possible negatives that will come from the relationship, instead of the positives their kids are seeing from the relationship. Love is Blind? Absolutely.

See the power of attitude? Whether he is the right one for you all depends on you. How you choose to evaluate his suitability in the future especially when this magic aura of "Love is blind" wears off along with the passion where we start to see the downside of our "PERFECT ONE". Nonetheless, long lasting relationships depends on the attitude both parties adopt, never never never give up. Until you've decided you gave the relationship enough chances to prove itself.

Note: Which sometimes explains why some girls are just plain stupid to stick to relationships which are obviously not going anywhere. Its a joke whenever I see these girls entangled in their own love web, not knowing what to do yet giving advice to other girls in love trouble, particularly when they themselves are not doing what they preach. Blind leading the blind. "Talk is cheap."

"What this power is I cannot say; all I know is that it exists and it becomes available only when a man is in that state of mind in which he knows exactly what he wants and is fully determined not to quit until he finds it." ~Alexander Graham Bell~ (Inventor of the first telephone in the world)

Is it the REAL you??

Was talking about how people have multiple personalities..I'm not referring to split personality disorder, but rather it being human nature that we often put up different masks when we are with different people facing different scenarios and circumstances..Different occasions calls for different behaviour to be part of the social norm.

"When in Rome, speak and do like the Romans do."

More often than not, we are always asking ourselves if the latest "crazy" thing you just did was YOU. Question is, do you really know who you really are?? Like in any other case, your other half whom you are dating, is it the real them?? Just like I said previously, we can strive and learn to behave like someone whom we see as a role model..It's not being fake or putting up the best oscar performance you know, but about character development and improving as a person.

True, sometimes you might wonder if your other half's occasional irrational behaviour warrants a belief that their "REAL" character might be fundamentally unpleasant based on their occasional outbursts of temper or stupidity. Alternatively, being all nice to all his friends, parents, basically everyone else except YOU!!! A possible scenario could also be he being all nasty to everyone else, but being all sweet and lovely to you..Getting you worried the whole day if he might turn out being nasty to you once he decides you are not the one for him or stops loving you..

Bottomline why I'm sayin this is, there is absolutely no worries about trying to find out who you are exactly. Ultimately, humans are always adatping to the latest changing conditions, and changing in prioritization of principles based on the situation. Perhaps you can find out vaguely who you really are, but you will never find out who you exactly are, because just like the environment, we are constantly changing too. Emotionally, physically, mentally..

Book recommendation. "Personality Plus" by Florence Lithauer.
Seriously, go get this book if you are really serious about finding out mroe about yourself and understanding why those around you behave the way they behave. Good luck.

Lose it to treasure it??

Quidam Cirque de Soleil = $131, Michael Buble Concert = $128, Time spend with your loved ones = Priceless. Many times in life, humans only start to treasure and appreciate what they have until they lose it.. Question is, are you one of them?? Is there really a need to lose it before you can treasure its value?? E.g Losing your house keys, handphone.. Well, of cos your other half or the impt people in yr life..

Primarily, I tink in all relationships, the storyline is always the same old thing.. Boy breaks up wif ger, ger breaks up wif guy.. More often than not, the old feelings of love and passion starts rushin back once again once they realise tte other party has found somebody new.. Somehow or rather, this feeling of jealousy comes rushin back and urges the body to yearn for the other party once again.. Sounds all too familiar??

We could all blabber and blabber bout startin to appreciate what you have right now, be thankful for it and all.. But i tink this phenomenon will never be solved, because it is simply human nature.. All I'm asking you to do, is a favour to yrself.. Make a conscious effort today, to show a small gesture of appreaciation to pple you value, by way of a phone call, sms or a gift..